How to talk to partner about compulsive use of vibrator?

As a female, I 100% agree that there are probably a tonne of women out there who are suffering sensitivity problems due to the way they masturbate. When you do it all the time especially direct clitoral stimulation, you train your body to want that level of clitoral action that doesn't always happen during real sex. I think this is a big problem in society but most of the focus goes onto male problems and females are just blaming guys for being bad in bed, when in reality they have some sort of death grip like problem. She should do this with you and give away the vibrator. I am doing this with my male partner and am not planning to really ever use my huge dildo or clit stimulator again much. It's kind of more rewarding and you feel more supported to do it together.

 

I have previously had a lengthy streak, and I noticed around day 30 my sensitivity was much improved. I have compulsively masturbated 30+ years, although not with toys. So day 30 was a good marker, my husband and I both had to adjust. Good luck to you both!

 

I'm over 100 days of no pmo, and I don't EVER touch myself. My boyfriend uses his hand to make me orgasm, it's AMAZING to have someone's warm hand make you orgasm in less than 20 minutes! I was so used to my vibrator I could not have sex without it, within time it'll get less sensitive! She needs to completely refrain from masturbating like I did, it has made me so much more sensitive! Even penetrative sex has gotten better, if she wants to be able to orgasm, harder and better she needs to stop using her vibrator and let you try. Good luck!!

Trigger ahead!!


He can even make me orgasm by rubbing his penis on my clitoris. It's amazing!

 

I have the same problem, never came with a man because I was self fulfilling. Did not realised why for 20 years until recently and here I am.

 

I am using blue ED pills - (because I am in zero PMO Flatline)
My GF was single for 6 years prior to us getting together and used a vibrator
She uses it when we have sex (and expressed a concern that she should perhaps retire it)
Last session she had 4 O's to my one!
I need to get my shit together with my post PMO dopamine rebuild and getting my normal E's back so I dont really feel I should make HER to also 'go into treatment" at this time...

Thoughts?

 

My advice is not to look for problems. A session where she has 4Os and you have one does not sound like a problem. If you are both having satisfying sex together in a loving mutually supportive relationship then the fact that there are some toys involved shouldn't be a problem. My only advice would be to avoid falling into a routine where there is only one specific way that she, or you, reaches O. Keep the variety. If it is always her that uses it when you make love, then ask her to teach you how to use it on her - as well as your hands, mouth etc. Make sure it is your joint toy, not just hers. Other than that, just enjoy it!

ANH