How to rebuild self-esteem

1. Self-observation: observe what you are thinking/feeling throughout the day. Don’t let your mind indulge in “negative” states such as resentment, fear, laziness etc.
2. Every time a lustful thought arises switch your attention to your high ideal.
3. A simple exercise that involves the body, mind and breath.

 

Yes, I can relate to your issues. U are still young. So, I think u should take a break. Look for a work. Write down your thoughts in a dairy. Try being more social. Meet with your friends. Try sharing casual thoughts with them. U need to get away from pmo and have to accept a life without it. Try finding a partner who is not dominating. Don't talk about your problems with her.

 

You’re welcome! Yes, it’s not easy (at first) to practice these things every day, however if we do then we develop patience, persistence, and faith - all qualities that will help us in any challenging situations that we will encounter.

 

The most simple advice I've heard for building self esteem is this: start keeping the promises you make to yourself.

Start small. If you decide, "I'm going to hit the gym at 2:00pm today," then come hell or high water, make sure you are there at 2:00pm. If you're trying to abstain from alcohol or sugary sweets, make sure you get through the day (or the hour) denying yourself from enjoying them. If you know you should start going to bed earlier, make a point to start tonight.

Most of us have this flawed belief that when we fail to follow through on our promises to ourselves, there's no real impact--there's no immediate consequence, so those decisions just kind of float off into the void. But they do have an effect. On a subconscious level, we realize that we're not following through for ourselves. And if we can't be trusted to show up for ourselves, why should we expect anyone else to show up for us?

So start keeping the promises you make to yourself. Little by little, you will start to see yourself as someone whose word is his bond, whose goals truly matter to him, who can delay gratification for a greater purpose. And that will improve your self-esteem, which will start you on an amazing upward cycle--as you feel better, you'll do better, which will make you feel better, and so on. But it all starts with showing up for yourself.