How to properly use the Fleshlight for to overcome PE and Death Grip

Hey man,

This subject interests me. Ever since I had sex for the first time, I was experiencing issues with ED. Sometimes I would masturbate before and that would work, but that required knowing when it was going to happen. Sometimes the sex would be spontaneous and I didn't want to turn off the vibe by telling the girl I had to go to the bathroom and then having to wait to be ready for sex again. So when it did happen I couldn't help cuming quickly, in only a few minutes at most. I tried biting my tongue, pinching my skin, thinking about the things that would turn me off, just to try to keep the intensity down, but most of the times it didn't help. One thing I find interesting is that the ED didn't happen all of the time, but it was very frequent. One of my Ex's got very disappointing every time it happened, I could see it in her face, and that made me feel bad. Back then that was the only issue I really had. I didn't have any problem getting a hard erection. That's one of the reasons why I liked porn so much, because I could cum quickly and not feel bad about it. Now, though I have been experiencing erectile dysfunction which is even worse than ED.

 

Why don't you guys stop having sex? Sounds like a lot of anxiety and not much fun.

 

So then all you're doing is re-wiring your sexuality to dump your stuff in a fleshlight. smh

 

I don't get why you think it "heals" premature ejaculation? How does masturbating with a device make any difference? Is it less stimulating thus you don't ejaculate as soon? Would you not then cum even sooner when stimulated? I assume 'death grip' is when the vagina is no longer stimulating thus delayed ejaculation. This therapeutic device fixes all of this, huh?

Just stop fuckin' masturbating, man. You listen to yourself you are prescribing a sex toy as a treatment for a problem. You actually think you are doing something therapeutic when you jerk off with your sex toy? Doc Johnson isn't really a doctor it's just the name of the products they are not for medical usage

 

Do you have any solutions then? I would be very happy to hear it. I've had pe since I first started having sex. I've had my good amount of sex in my life and that has not cured it so far. Can anybody confirm that they have cured pe by doing the NoFap thing? I am in the process of rebooting, but if this reboot sensitizes my dopamine receptors as it is said, I can only imagine that I will get more turned on by sex, which will probably translate to pe when I have sex. But if someone has had experience with this and can share, please do so.

 

Just do the hard reboot for 90 days and see if it works or not. No one can tell you for sure if it will cure your PE even if they cured theirs that way. What do you have to lose by trying it? What have you lost if it does not work? Nothing. And so you really have PE which is defined as ejaculation which occurs prior to a minute after stimulation. I've also seen books define it as 15 seconds. The average time is 4-5 minutes so do you have PE or just want to last longer?

 

Hi,

Well for me, it's not super extreme PE, but basically once I start having sex, it just feels too stimulating, and after being at it for a short while, maybe 2 or 3 minutes into sex (I never have a chronometer taking the exact time lol), though it's usually before the girl has had enough time to orgasm. Sometimes is a bit more time, sometimes a bit less. That was the original problem with me anyways, I used to at least get hard erections. Now, I am facing a more serious problem which is ED. On one occasion I reached orgasm without my dick even getting half hard. So the combination of these two conditions is the ultimate shit. I am currently doing the rebooting thing so I guess I will find out. I think I might be able to reach 90 days. I'm 1/3 of the way already and it hasn't been too difficult for me so far. However, I think that once this rebooting period is over, I will continue masturbating probably around once a week (If I am not sexually active) and I won't do it to porn. I have decided to remove porn from my life, even though I love it. I have heard that edging sessions are good when done correctly, but I've heard other people say they're bad... So which is it?

 

Well I am a partner of a man with DE and trust me when I tell you that we would kill for him to have PE he cannot O at all with me. I understand you are not lasting as long as you would like but I don't believe at all that porn will fix your problem. I'm not sure how old you are but stamina usually increases with age, sexual experience and when you are with the same partner over time. We as women expect you to O that quickly when we are with you the first few times it's normal. And the younger you are the more we expect it. But if you have been dating someone for a year or so and you are still oing that quickly that may indicate an issue. If you are concerned about finishing too quickly then just make sure you pleasure her first prior to penetration. Most women can't O from just penetration we need oral and hands etc so do that first. And sex does not have to end because you O. If you O quickly continue stimulating her with your hands and mouth. They usually recommend a flesh light for men that have difficulty oing with a woman so they get rid of death grip. I'm not sure that it would help with PE but other men can comment. I think you need to just get used to sex with a woman and that will come overtime and age. Edging is horrible just search it in this thread it makes things so much worse it creates a dopamine high that is more than actually oing.

 

Hi,

Thank you for your great advice. I get the foreplay thing, and I actually like to do it a lot, however I find that when I foreplay, it turns me on a lot too so when I am finally going in, I don't last much. Also, I've tried stopping when I feel like I am about to cum, and then continuing, but when I go right back to it, I just reach that point again very quickly. I know that a lot of people here are against the flesh light, and trust me, I don't like using these types of toys either, but if it helps reduce PE, then I would consider giving it a try. I think it wouldn't hurt if someone tried it and told about their results, or if someone has already done so and wants to share.