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How to have sex with a virgin girl?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by GratifiedSlave, Sep 7, 2023.

  1. GratifiedSlave

    GratifiedSlave Fapstronaut

    Hi,

    So I am going to get married with a girl soon, both of us are virgins and have never had sex before.

    I had some love moments with her before that included me rubbing her clitoris and trying to enter her vagina using my fingers but she always felt pain and I couldnt go further because of hymen maybe?

    Therefore, both of us are concerned about our first sex, I dont want that to be a painful and terrible experience for her. So here I am seeking suggestion from the people who have done it already. How was your first sex experience? Should I go in forcefully to clear the way in a sudden jerk or should I enter it slowly?
     
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  2. HealingBodyandMind

    HealingBodyandMind Fapstronaut

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    I have no experience with this

    but I’d say use some lubrication and do it slowly

    I’ve heard one guy say before that instead of having sex right away, first he used one finger for a few times, then two fingers a different day, and then full sex a different day after that
     
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  3. Mr. Unhappy

    Mr. Unhappy Fapstronaut

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    Your brain is going to be processing allot at this time. Take it easy and slow paced she will be in pain for a little bit. It's very important to not rush or just go in right away. Give her soft kisses and just be warm and fuzzy with her at the time. My mistake in the past was rushing... I was to caught in the moment and didn't think to slow down or take it easy, it'll be over stimulating and arousing. I was with a friend that was already experienced and I guess I should of relaxed more. My sexual tendencies made me more eager and nervous. You got to calm this down first.
     
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  4. Thor God of Thunder

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    We were both virgins when we married and it took a couple of days in the honeymoon before I could enter. We got some lube and she worked at stretching things out until I could get in. I just followed her lead since she knows what was happening with her body. We just didn’t rush things. Honestly it wasn’t until after our first child that things got very easy. Before that it was always slow going at first and easing in little at a time and then once things were “warmed up” we could proceed.
    My recommendation is to communicate and follow her lead. She will be able to tell you what feels good for her.
     
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  5. Frassvelli

    Frassvelli Fapstronaut

    I can relate here. I got married 2 years ago and was on hard mode for 10 months prior to the wedding night. Me and wife were then so very excited we would finally be able to have sex for the first time in our lives! And only to find out I would lose my erection the moment I tried entering her. Yep we did the kissing and all the slow down stuff.

    But PIED was real for my personal experience! Thank God my wife was so supportive through the ordeal. I really felt bad about it during the first honeymoon days. But we were able to overcome it on the 4th day of trying. The first days are very memorable for us and we remember it to this day. I agree with the previous comments here: take it very slow, explore each other first, do a lot of kissing and talking, ask your girl what she likes, prepare the lube, and forget everything you've seen on porn! Real sex for the first time is so much different!

    Good luck and enjoy the experience!
     
    Last edited: Sep 9, 2023
  6. Rents77

    Rents77 Fapstronaut

    If you don't mind it -
    eat her out before that
    . Personally it's one my favourite things to do before sex, but it's not for everyone.

    A friend of mines in her 20ies asked me to be her first - so after having some fun with my tongue, I then told her I would penetrate her fully and just remain like that for a minute or so. So I entered and didn't move for awhile, so she can get used to the sensation. Afterwards - continued slowly before picking up the rhythm.

    As for the eating out part...listen for moans, really.
    Listen to how she reacts and keep going in that direction.
     
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  7. GratifiedSlave

    GratifiedSlave Fapstronaut

    Thanks everyone; I was going to rush into her, now I will be more careful :)
     

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