How to deal with “the chaser effect” with a partner?

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to work out a loose schedule. Spontaneity is a huge part of sex, but a regulated method of going about it might ease off the proverbial throttle a bit.

 

No. There are plenty of women who desire sex continuously, just like men do. Probably more.

 

When I'm in a healthy relationship, I desire sex every day or more. When my partner at the time was healthy and also feeling the same way, it did not interfere or give us any kind of negative side effects. It was almost like a quick gym session or walk during the day. We could be a bit tired or winded, but it didn't fatigue us or wipe us out unless we purposefully aimed to go a few times in the evening before bed with the purpose of being wiped out and falling asleep after. It didn't consume my thoughts, but I'd definitely think about him during the day and look forward to it and be aroused, but it was similar to looking forward to a fun date, rather than a distracting craving to just get off.

The connection tended to make us (or me at least) more patient and motivated at work/around the house. We'd play around and mess with each other and things were just fun. It was not the same as my exes have described the impatience of waiting to be alone or for people to go away to get their fix.