How to Beat the Hijack?

DAAANNGGG! I'm 28 and have been trying to quit for 8 years. Crazy! I think this porn addiction really hit a lot of our generation given high-speed internet came out when we were growing up.

As for the beating the craving, I am at a loss. My best resource so far has been to just avoid being home alone with the computer/internet. For example, when I am at a public library, I NEVER look at porn. Similarly, if I am at an event, school, work, the gym, you name it, I NEVER look at porn. I wouldn't even think to look at porn. Seems simple enough right, just don't go on the internet while at home. Well, I've been trying to do that and keep slipping up.

 

I come so close to relapse so often!!! Have been lucky enough to log in here instead of porn. It is crazy. I'm thinking of a small personal tattoo or permanent mark to place on my hand to remind myself in case of my inevitable slip up.What should it be where if someones sees it and asks; I have a good excuse to have it there?

 

Tried the same b fucking nothing works

 

Seriously isn't there any one who can really help us all... We all are going into a deep trouble n this is only platform where we are for a hope that something will work out.... I've been addicted from past 10 years, I don't watch porn 5 days a week as soon as the weekend arrives I just loose the Control n just I masturbate 6-7 times in two days. I live alone in my room, nothing goes without phone, people say when u feel urge do this, that but it does not works...I m feeling just completely helpless, have been going through tons of videos forum to get help but nothing work, the same as this.

 

You could try what I'm doing at the moment. I keep asking myself, "Is this bullshit?"

For example, if I get an urge or a rationalisation, or even a negative thought, I ask "Is this bullshit?"

And it usually is lol.

 

What’s so crazy about this disease is that even the most knowledge and reasoning won’t stop the addiction cycle. The good news is there are solutions especially when money for therapy is a problem. First off there are sliding scale therapy clinics in most counties. Prices change depending on your income. Also there are 12 step prrograms which are free! I attend SAA. And I work the 12 steps using the AA Big Book.

As you already figured out porn blockers can always be broken. I know one person who just went to Best Buy and purchased a new phone and then went to a cafe to watch porn. So there’s no escaping it. And forcing it to go away doesn’t work.

Here’s the test of an addict. First, can you stop once you start? And second, once you stop cancyou stay stopped? If both are true then you’re addicted.

Therapy + SAA meetings + working the 12 steps with a sponsor using the AA Big Book + rigorous honesty about all your problems + journaling daily + meditation + exercise + focus and intent = sobriety for me (and many others)

Good luck and I’m happy to help!

 

Many people misunderstand 12-step programs. It’s not the fault of anyone. It’s due to a cultural phenomena within meetings and years of misinterpretation being passed down over the years.

Now I am definitely not and advocate of only 12-step. Even in the first aa big book edition written, they mention the need to seek outside helpcas well.

However, 12 step programs are not really about accountability, although this is one piece of the puzzle. Aside from learning to live with some sort of spirituality, there is a huge emphasis in doing therapeutic writing that tears out our problems by the root.

This part of it has been forgotten by many over the years cuz it’s much more dificult to do a path of self discover and intense therapeutic healing compared to showing up toca meeting talking about your problems and drinking coffee.

According to the aa literature the first many members all stayed sober and recovered from addiction, now it’s down to 2% or something like that. I believe this is due to a lack of understanding and confusion spread by many members among other reasons.

For me 12 step and therapy and nofap and family have all played a huge role in my recovery but it required a multipronged approach and 12 step was huge in uncovering the dirt that needed to be cleaned up.

If you have any questions about 12 step and how it’s suppose to be done vs how most do it, lmk. Hope this helps clarify somewhat how 12 step is suppose to work.