How do you reboot when you live alone?

May I ask.... what is it, do you think, about bachelorhood that makes rebooting particularly harder for you than you imagine it might be for those who are married? I think your approaches are good, for example, having a porn blocker with a password you don't know. But will you abide by these rules you set for yourself? (Without reinstalling your OS?)

 

I have the same issue. I live alone and when the urges come I could just PMO as no one is around but you need to have the will. Distract yourself. Do some house work or watch a tv show.

 

Thank you @Woodland-Soul . Indeed, I agree that isolation and secrecy are catalysts for bad behavior. If we let it happen. Even those who live in busy houses can find alone time to act poorly. May we all do what's right today.

 

Do you work? Or college?

Just distract yourself keep busy.

 

I live alone, and am very alone. But i feel like i can beat my (former) pmo addiction now! What i did:
tune in to daily inspiration
Work, improve on all areas of Life
Understanding is huge key as well, really understanding why pmo is self sabotage, and has nothing of real fulfillment to offer
Have done deep soul searching
Writing things down for myself
Making best of Life, having a more meditative mindset (i love cooking, now i do it with full attention and easeness).
To be able to do nofap, a complete transformation is needed, i have come to believe, in my case
I gotta stay vigilant, but im feeling better than ever before during reboot streaks.

And ohh, if you relapse.. dont go completely crazy, binging, but analyse and learn from mistakes.. in order to not make the same mistake again

All the best, i believe we have to see this lifestyle as a beautiful way of life, not as a chore (wasnt always the case for me... but i try to remind myself)

 

Hey DM we can be APs. I made 4 months looking to keep going.

 

I live alone so I understand your difficulties however YOU CAN DO THIS.
You are right to put the normal safeguards in place but far more important is to have the mindset that you are now LIVING A PMO FREE LIFE.
To get to this state you MUST have a CAN DO and WILL DO attitude and you must fill your life with people and activities... For me this has been:-

• Gym
• Running
• Walking
• Volunteering at hospice
• Learning a new language
• Joining MeetUp.com
• Reconnecting with old friends... etc.

An added bonus of the above is that you'll realise all those 'superpowers' you had forgotten you had.
You'll soon find you haven't the time nor energy to Fap

 

You need to build yourself into the person that no longer watches porn. This means changing your life and setting yourself in the right direction.

Yes it is possible, i work for myself and spend a LOT of time alone at home. I get horny and have urges too but now i know that i will have no problems because i trust myself. Building good habits around that is something you will also need to do but basically you need to change your life from the person who you were to the person who you want to be. When an urge comes up for me i tell myself, "im not that person anymore". The more you self talk like that the easier it will get for you.

 

I’m a bachelor with no girlfriend.

I get out of the house often. Work overtime when available, go on trips, go to the gym, do indoor wall climbing, photography, walks, visit a couple friends down south, go check out new restaurants.

Get involved in things outside of the house that you enjoy.

Lots of good inputs from the others here as well.

 

It's a decision you make - you have limiting beliefs that are guiding you into this addiction; you need to find those beliefs and change them. One of those beliefs is that you think it's easy to succumb to porn because you live alone - that is a lie. If you lived with others it would still be the same, you would still find a way because this is something you want to do. Deep down inside, you have to not want it anymore.

Rebooting means you are weakening the desire to a manageable level. You have to believe you can do it, then take all the steps necessary to kick it out of your life. Find some accountability. Find a new life away from the internet.

 

For me, I just imagine my future wife and the damage that I am causing to our future marriage and family by continuing my addiction to PMO. Every time you allow your heart to succumb to it, you are causing more damage and increasing your chances of a failed marriage and divorce.