How do I stop?

You’ve taken a first important step by coming and posting here. Good for you. I’m presuming your wife doesn’t know specifically about your PMO habit, but if not, she knows something is off and your attention and energy is somewhere else. Couple of suggestions. If you can come clean with her, it’s best to get rid of the dishonesty, hiding and lies. That stuff is an impediment to your relationship. But I understand the fear and hesitation to do so. But you can’t do this alone. Have you worked with a therapist, support group and/or accountability partner? You need to have connection to overcome this. And it’s also important to dig deep and learn what is underneath your choice to turn to porn to self-medicate and self-soothe. Trust me, there are reasons there and if you work to understand them and work to heal that, you will overcome this. Blockers and other white-knuckling techniques are great short-term and important initially, but you need more to defeat this long-term. I know how PMO can take over and the pull to things like gay porn. Been there and still working on recovering from it. But like me you can heal from this and you are worth it, and so is your wife and your relationship.

 

One quick note for you, check with her health insurance company. Some companies will include free therapy sessions as part of the health insurance plan. For example I had a problem (not porn related) recently that was really impacting my mental health and my insurance offers 6 free counseling sessions. Using those free sessions I was able to work through the problem with a therapist. It may take more then free sessions to overcome your PMO addiction but at least this would be the start and save you some money.