How do I stop craving a girlfriend??

Idk i just did nofap and on the 14th day I stopped wanting one really badly

 

If anything nofap has made me want a girlfriend even more. The solution here is simple. Become the person you want to be and then get a girlfriend. If you don't like being single (like me) then find a girl you like and ask her out.

 

I like what Mankrik said, become the person you want to be. The rest should happen more naturally. Come hell or high water, I will rise out of this miserable condition. A true survivor.

 

Do not pray for a girlfriend, pray for bigger shoulders to handle that feel.

 

Time. Follow your passions, remember that the problem with PMO is instant gratification, but real, genuine gratification takes time. Every single day you abstain, exercise, meditate, eat well, study, work hard, you get closer to becoming the man you want to be. And one day, someone will see that. They say you find a girlfriend the minute you stop trying. I don't think that's true; you find a girlfriend not in a minute, but in the hours and days you spend not trying, but doing what you need to do. You'll get there, have faith.

 

Are you a Chad? If so, you should be able to get a girlfriend easily. If not, it may take you longer.

 

I don't know your situation, but it's a matter of improving yourself inside and out. That means patience and discipline. Increasing your physical attraction via getting in shape and taking care yourself. And working on being able to talk to girls and project yourself as a confident and caring partner. It's simple but difficult. If you have any questions I'll answer them.

 

In my experience, it's helpful for me to ask what am I looking for in any relationship- whether that is family, or friends, or a significant other. If what I am looking for is something I do not have, myself, then chances are, I won't get that through the relationship, or at least, I may be over-exaggerating the significance of this "solution" to my problems. The question then becomes how do I work with this dissatisfaction? What do I see in the other person? Am I seeing something I think I don't have and if I am, how do I go about achieving this something for myself? Will a girlfriend really solve my feelings of unfulfillment? If I think they will, how long will that feeling of fulfillment really last for?
Then, there is the question of what this feeling of dissatisfaction is. What is this? Where does it come from? How do I go about noticing where this comes from? Is it loneliness? What is loneliness?
I'm afraid I may have left you with more questions than answers, but these are things only you can answer for yourself. We all come to our own conclusions. I think it's normal to want what we don't have. This desire is something that I've found to be hugely flexible, and there are ways to work with it. If I find myself getting frustrated, or feeling shaky or desperate, I'll do some pushups. Sometimes I do 2, or 3, or 6, it doesn't have to be a lot, just enough to express and let out my emotions.
I've personally certainly have found much fulfillment in finding new ways to express my emotions, whatever they may be. Sometimes I write poetry, sometimes I draw, sometimes I play music. Sometimes I listen to music, or hum, or whistle, or go out for a walk with no expectations. I'm terrible at all of these, and I've never been a particularly creatively inclined person, but somehow, expressionistic tools start out as one thing and turn into something else. The important thing for me is to be present with my emotions and work them into whatever I'm doing. It could be cleaning dishes, or tapping, or doodling. Doesn't have to be beautiful, either. Sometimes my ugliest doodles give me the most satisfaction.

One last thought, I've often noticed myself craving a relationship for the sake of a relationship in the past. Observation of others seems to tell me that these sorts of relationships never really last, and it can be sad to see the pain left behind, that is often ignored and obscured by the next person, the next relationship, etc.
I strongly believe (and that's all it is is a belief- I may be wrong) that it's good to get to know someone as an acquaintance, then perhaps as a friend. Then maybe something as a better friend. Once I know someone very well, only then can I really judge whether I want this relationship to be something more.
Maybe talk to some of these girls without expecting anything in return other than to learn a little more about who these people are Or if you are anxious, talk to other people you are more comfortable with. Place the spotlight on them, who are they, what music do they like, what is their dream job, what countries would they love to visit and why? I've found people love to talk about themselves, and that's not a bad thing.

Best wishes, and bows,

Footprints

 

Your happiness and peace should not be based on external things and conditions so I would try figuring out things that will help develop you into a well rounded person make goals for yourself and live in present moment all wanting and desiring is the manifestation of your ego which is not your true self live in the past and you will feel and to live in future always brings anxiety your mind always wants to resist what is and it's crazy to do that but we all have been conditioned to think this way but when we live in the present moment are true nature shines we are in higher state of consciousness

 

This is the best advice we all have been use to instant gratification because of porn but real life doesn't work like this you have to cultivate something in order for things to manifest anything worth getting or doing takes discipline and patience I see that not pmoing has allowed me to be more at peace and has humbled me a lot and I keep doing things like cooking reading working out doing different outdoor activities I will find someone but if I don't that's ok because I find fufillment in self development and everything else is in Gods hands because he has saved me from myself and has given me so much wisdom by going through this addiction

 

Do not be the best version of yourself for a girlfriend. Do it for the best interest of you. Never fit in with anyone. Do what you think is best with your INTUITION so that someone can feel that intuition and fall for you being yourself. It is one thing when a man goes his own path for his own interests and another when he follows this because he thinks it can get him a girlfriend.

 

Ah, that's a very good question! I have found that the desire for a genuine positive relationship with a girl can be healthy or unhealthy depending on its impact (on you and others) and its amount. In the circumstance of caring too much about having a relationship, there can be a variety of ways of changing how you think, feel, and act in order to gain a more balanced (normal) level of wanting a relationship.

For example (and as others have said), you can try to use that want to drive you towards achieving other goals (which can also correspond with that desire): Getting fit and dieting in order to look and feel better, changing your thoughts to be more positive in order to think better, reading in order to have more knowledge, the list is endless. All of those (and many more) goals can be used to both channel and achieve your original goal of having a relationship and finding that someone you love and loves you in return .

I'm not saying that this is going to magically change the way you feel overnight, but you can gradually shift to and prioritize other goals first.

All the best with this, I have been on a similar boat for quite a while -- but I've found it's not as bad a boat as some people make out.