How do i get the sex drive to meet women in real life?

It's enough, if you don't get your dopamine and sexual needs satisfied by porn, this will create a need a healthy stress to get it from real girls.

 

Lol I just had this question arising in my head two days ago. I feel the same. Some user once told me some years ago that screens may just be safer for us and that we accustomed to voyeuristic behaviour. I think sex just wires us too easily to how we engage it.

Abstaining and rewiring for the time it's needed should be it. I just began to have that drive two years into this and after getting more confident.

 

@hope2overcome_ eventually your healthy libido is going to get back. Your brain is rewairing. Give it time.

 

Putting aside those women who made bold moves to get to know you...

Were there any other women there where you wanted to be bold enough to ask for their number?

Going back to the bold women, did you ask for their number?

 

Here's what comes to my mind based on my own experience and what I've read over the years.

I've never picked up a lady at a bar or even ask for their number. Like your I was too chicken to do so. One time a lady pulled me out onto the dance floor, that freaked me out a bit. I pulled away so I lost a chance to dance with a lady. That's OK since I wasn't in my mind for it anyway.

The first thing to do is to step back to see what you are really looking for and then to see where you currently at.

One of the best decisions I made for me was to step back from trying to pick up women at the bar. I was doing it just to get laid, which I see today as the wrong way to do it. Obviously I desire sex, that is OK. I believe one of the main reasons I was having such a hard time was putting sex first. Leave the sex for marriage. Start setting some firm boundaries. Stand out from all the other penises trying to get in her pants.

Today I recommend to focus on getting comfortable with talking to women. In doing so the opportunity to ask for her number will naturally arrive with out effort on your part. You need not think anything beyond this.

My 2 pennies.

 

Hi. Here I am again. How old are you? and have you had this issue in the past?.

 

I'm no expert, but it seems to me you should pick a woman whose company you think you might actually enjoy and focus on her.

 

Try your best to do the 90 man!

You might have a month of frustration, a month of flatline, and then at some point it'll just come back to you!

I notice this with a few months clean there's a certain 'fire in the belly' that comes back.

Currently I think I'm just leaving behind a flatline and I feel completely different. Just got to trust in the process. Forget women for now, and in a few months time you won't have to think about it - you'll just see a beautiful woman and introduce yourself.

Also just my opinion, but I would recommend giving the clubs a break. Just gest frustrating during a reboot to surround yourself with girls dressed up and dancing etc. Leave that for when the energy comes back to you!