How can I stop this

You can't stop wet dreams from happening, that is one way that your body releases excess semen. What you will want to watch out for is the "chaser effect", where you get increased urges after a nightfall/wet dream/semen leakage. The wet dreams are in response to your body being used to expelling semen or using those vesicles so often. With more time and a longer streak, these wet dreams should occur less and less often.

Did you have wet dreams on your previous streaks?

Congrats on 17 days!

 

You're welcome. Gotcha. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do to avoid the urges, but you can plan ahead for them. If you know you'll urges, then find an event to go to or find some work to do at a friend's or at home that will distract you. Or be outside in nature. I will let you know if I think of others - my problem is that often I go without urges for so long, that when they come, then I am in danger.

 

Thanks for the suggestion! That's a good idea. I got a feeling that a switch has changed in my brain, and so I won't need the panic mode for a while, but if I relapse, I'll use it. Unfortunately I use my phone for work, so I can't use something that stops the phone too long.. Mentally I kind of feel like I've decided "ok, I'm 29, I'm about to get into a real career, it's time to stop".. I've had a few urges but I haven't fed them. That's the thing also - if you get a baby urge, kill it with fire. If you let it grow, that's when it'll damage you.

 

It is not a stupid question at all, everything is variable. You are 18 so if you work at it, there is good time to recover.
There are a few answers.
If you only stop the addiction but don't focus on repairing the damage, it will take a while.
If you stop the addiction and have females in your life who are positive role models (leading you to view women in a right light) then it'll take less time.
If you stop the addiction and fill the time with activities like school or work or hobbies or family, then it'll take less time.
If you have both positive role models, male and female, and you fill the time well, you can recover and go on to have a normal relationship with those around you.
Do you have positive male and female role models in your life?

 

I'm sure it's tough for him, he had a crush for so long and then got denied. Easier to turn to a soothing remedy than face the harshness of his experience.

I personally think it's important to have female friends, in order to realize that they're literally just humans with different parts. Girls are great because they often are connected to their feelings more, or have more emotional sensitivity. Girls have a lot of empathy while guys often have fathers who don't know how to teach them empathy.

It's likely tough to make female friends, being shy. I was more of a loner in high school and I totally get the struggles of that.

It's good to hear that you're getting better talking to girls! The earlier the better. Learning what makes quality girls tick is super important for learning to respect them, because porn often shows girls as just an object.

Me personally, I was a loner in HS, didn't think I was worth a girl... graduated in 2013, had a gf in 2018, I broke it off due to stress from a lot of life events, now I'm in nursing school and I can appreciate the qualities of those I work with, every day. I am comfortable being emotionally open and available, and I try to practice that, as well as practicing empathy.

Sorry for the delayed response! Thanks for your patience and I hope it's going well for you.