How are you coping with the years you've lost?

I have lost years of my life to porn and my future has been incorrigibly changed as a result. But I think that most men have this struggle at one level or another, sexual impulses getting the better of oneself. It is easy to say that years have your life have been wasted, and I can't help but view it that way too, but maybe those pitiful years are what was necessary for you to do good in the present, it motivates you, and gives you a familiarity with what is important and what is evil. I don't think by any means you are without a chance of marriage.

 

I lost 27 years to the addiction. I lost my childhood and youth teenage years into adulthood. I do not want to get married for this reason. I’m 35 now. I’m happy that i have found the cure which is abstention and fasting and praying and walking. That i will live the rest of my life in devotion to God. And not subject to desires of sex and copulating. I feel relieved that there’s a cure . I can use it to my advantage. It’s like a super power. For some things. I can’t read or write as i have a disability but it works for some things. Be happy and eat plenty pray and walk. Get closer to God talk to him. He is The real source of peace and comfort.

 

I lost my adolescence to that crap. Now, i'm 20 and i'm looking for great goals like learn new languages, try to get a good, healthy and natural shape, learn more about math and physics and seeking for natural and long-term sources of pleasure.

I mean, the past is gone and we can't change all the mistakes we did and all the bullshit we said and thought. We have the willpower to change our decisions and habits to change our future. That's how i try to follow my life now.

 

I lost most of my younger years due to porn. You don't fully understand what it does to you at the time, especially when your friends watch it too and make it sound so normal and acceptable.

But why look back? You know so much more now and have the tools to keep progressing. Look forward to the opportunities you have because you don't waste your time viewing that shit. Keep going. You got this!

 

Me?

... I look back on it and say "I now know who really stood by me, and who was willing to help me through this trial." Turned out it made me bitter, and distant towards those that said they'll help me, but just proved they didn't want to help. They were using brute-force tactics rather than Loving Tactics. Made me more distrustful towards the ladies of my family.

Because if Porn taught me one thing, its discernment between Lust and Love. Shame and Tough love.

It made me a simp. It then made me break out of it. So, I tell my story, I find techniques that can combat this "Drug" without hurting the body. Only focusing on turning this "Sludge" into an enhancer.

Because if there's another thing that Porn taught me, A Tempered Soul is better than Pure and Innocent Soul.

 

I've lost 4 years to this crap. So I'm glad I'm getting out now rather than later.

I'm simply staying off my laptop as much as possible. And I'm just waiting for my 90 day goal to be over. Right now I'm on week 3 so I still gotta a way to go.

But now that I'm finally recovering, I feel like I'm gonna start being more active in life.