I've been an observer of Nofap for a few months now, but finally decided to make an account and get involved. So I will give yall the rundown. I have been watching porn and fapping since about 13 and I'm 21 now. Since it was right after puberty I think my brain is pretty deeply wired the wrong way. Every sexual encounter I've been in my life has been influenced by PIED. Plenty of one night stands that ended in excuses of why I couldn't get it up, and most of my relationships have ended because of PIED. It's pretty bad, but I never really connected porn to the ED and honestly didn't know why I was cursed by this humiliating ailment. I always fapped a couple times a week, but then I moved to Texas at 18. I didn't know anyone in the state except for my family and really didn't make any friends for two years. During that time I comforted myself by fapping once a day at least. Now I'm going to college and finally got into a relationship with a really awesome girl. First couple of times we tried having sex I of course couldn't get it up. I was honestly dreading getting to the point in the relationship of having sex, because I knew it would be downhill from there. That's when I found NoFap. I committed myself to hard mode, and that lasted for 21 days. At 21 days the lady and I finally sealed the deal. After, I was hooked again on that dopamine and those endorphins, and fapped for 3 days straight. Couldn't string together anything longer than a week after that, and we really only had sex successfully a few times after that, but plenty of PIED let downs. We just broke up 2 weeks ago, and I'm still pretty crushed by it because I know it was because of the PIED. I can't blame her. I'm just really sick of all of this, because I know I did it to myself. I'm trying so hard, but I honestly at times feel like I'm never going to operate successfully again. I just want to be able to do my evolutionary job, and have a normal sex life. Sexual impotence at 21 has absolutely destroyed my confidence, and has made me just about as insecure as it gets. I know I'm at rock bottom right, so I'm hoping the only direction from here is up. At one point I was known for being a master of laying pipe!!! Now I feel bad coaxing a girl into bed knowing the awkwardness and the disappointment that will follow. I haven't given up yet, I've still got a fire blazing in me that is propelling me to freedom from PIED, and I know the battle has just begun. It was so extremely comforting to find that there is a community of people going through the same thing that I can connect with. Honestly looking for any edge I can get in this fight. I think if I can get to 90 days I will be golden, but just making it past 10 is hard. Felt good writing this and getting it out there. Gets lonely dealing with these problems alone.
Hey man I feel you, I couldnt get it up for my girlfriend at all, and it put alot of stress on the relationship. Its probably the most embarressing, dissapointing, and frustrating feeling out there. Hang in there man, even one week of nofap has done wonders for me. Another part of the whole "cant get it up" dilemma is the anxiety. If you get nervous or anxious about your performance before youve started, then youve already lost the battle my friend. The last place your brain will route blood, while youre anxious, is your dick. So try not to be too hard on yourself, thats something that affects completely healthy people. Anyways, congrats on taking the first step, porn sucks. Cheers to you and your nofap journey, stay strong.
Sexual immorality is so wrong and harmful. You are experiencing things like ED. I want to help you, to accompany you in your struggle. I have many tips and ideas for you, write to me.
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
I want to point our the great success of Sex Addicts Annonymous with the 12 Steps Program. Look at it at the internet. First, admitting they are powerless over their addictive sexual behavior and that their lives are unmanageable; believing that a Power greater than theirselves can restore them to sanity; making a decision to turn their will and their lives to the care of God as they understand God, etc., etc. Sex Addicts Annonyumous copied the 12 Steps Program from Alcoholics Annonymous and both groups have had great success. I hope and pray that all the men at NoFap may have the same success. I want to point our the great success of Sex Addicts Annonymous with the 12 Steps Program. Look at it at the internet. First, admitting they are powerless over their addictive sexual behavior and that their lives are unmanageable; believing that a Power greater than theirselves can restore them to sanity; making a decision to turn their will and their lives to the care of God as they understand God, etc., etc. Sex Addicts Annonyumous copied the 12 Steps Program from Alcoholics Annonymous and both groups have had great success. I hope and pray that all the men at NoFap may have the same success.
Currently committing every day to not masturbate for the next 24 hours. Other than that I don't know if I really have a strategy. Any suggestions?
Yes! I have suggestions, many of them. How about following the 12 Steps, adopted by Sex Addicts Annonymous from Alcoholics A...? Here they are: The Twelve Steps We admitted that we were powerless over lust—that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to sexaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Any comments? This program has been proven effective in thousands of men around the world to end up sexual addictions.
