Hooker Problem: Please Help Me Out

If those are not statements of an addict trying to justify their addiction I do not know what is.

I know you don't want to hear from the crowd that does not visit hookers, but I am going to leave you one thought. If you are so skilled in the bed, and believe you are really providing them pleasure, they are not faking it, and they are not doing it for the money, next time you contact a hooker that you have previously been with, ask her for a freebie. Ask her that since she enjoys it so much with you, she should be willing to have sex with you for no money. I'm pretty sure her answer will be to tell you no. Then you know for a fact she only does it for the money.

 

i have and they aren’t mutually exclusive. The prostitute can enjoy the act but still only be in it for the money. That said, she gets paid to make you feel good, so of course she’s going to do what makes you feel good, including stroke your ego

 

If a prostitute is not enjoy it, you can tell usually women never lie about how they feel and prostitutes are no exception that is why in every city of the world you have forums dedicated to review prostitutes.

It seems you are young and full of energy so there's a good chance they are enjoying it. Sex is pleasant.

So if your reason to stop doing it is because they are suffering and getting no benefit from havinhg sex with you then you are denying reality. They not only can enjoy it but also benefit economically from it.

 

I don't think you want to have a discussion here or be convinced of anything else judging the replies so far. You will have to do exactly as already mentioned; be honest with yourself. Only then you will find the real answer to your questions. We can't look inside your mind. We aren't professionals here, but if you ask me the advice already given was enough. If that doesn't work go see a professional.

And if that doesn't work, then you will continue to feed your addiction and never recover from it. Simple as that. I know this because I also have a similar sex worker addiction and even a step further. But the main difference is that my view is more realistic. I know for sure they 'love' you as long as your wallet is not empty. They're just like anyone who starts a business; to make money, and only money.

But what do you get out of it? I think you just need someone to love you, and for some reason(s) you aren't able to get that love in any other way. I know because I'm there. I think you don't really like yourself so you need someone else to say it to you; that you are a person of value and worthy of love. But no one can give that as much as you can yourself. Start loving yourself first and then love from others comes to you.

I'm not saying that it's easy. It's a long road and I'm also walking it, still. But you have to start there. That may be your answer, actually I don't think there is much else to it honestly.

P.S. You don't have the 'right' to forbid anyone from giving their view/opinion on the topic. If you'd be more open to more opinions you will actually get more support which should benefit you.

 

If you're so big on sins and lies, then you, more than anyone, should know that it's all a lie, man, it's called lust. The prostitutes want your money and the devil wants your soul. You're being suckered, get some help and gtfo out of that lawlessness while you still can.

 

Maybe not the exact experiences you are looking for but… I was an undercover decoy for 2 years. I worked secretly beside the escorts. They thought I was one of them. None of them liked it. They hated it. They were repulsed by the vast majority of the men they were with, but of course they didn’t show it. Some clients they liked more than others, but usually it was because they “ couldn’t get it up”. They all talked about saving enough money to get out. Unfortunately they almost all used drugs to forget what they were doing as well. All but one that I met had been severely sexually abused as children. Many said” I might as well sell it if they are going to take it for free”. It was truly one of the most depressing jobs I’ve ever had. It completely changed how I viewed sex workers. The way they talked about the clients they had been with. You have no idea. I know I didn’t. 2 years at that job was way too long, so so sad.

 

Hooker sell sex, they want you to enjoy the sex, so they will do anything to please you, so you will come back. It is just an act for them.

 

My ex-roommate used to sell sex. She taught me that people who pay for sex, aren't the kind of people you want to have sex with. Most of the time. It's for the money. People in general have a tendency to please other people. It's not a bad thing - getting along feels good and it's good for business.

How can you tell if she really enjoys you Pearling her Jam? You stop paying for it.

 

I’ve briefly dated or hung out with a few hookers as we clicked in bed or on a personal level. Some will big their job up, also rationalising it. Saying things like it’s some of the best sex you’ll ever have and you get paid! I imagine they have some horrible experiences too. But I’ve had escorts before and their escort mate has joined in for free as wanted a bit. I’ve had strictly hand job only massages where the woman has climbed on for some action 3 times. End of the day we’re revved up hypersexual deviants and they’re usually messed up too. Sex can be used as a way of soothing or getting off to negative core beliefs that you’re shit and need using, a lot of these ladies will have been abused as kids so in a weird way live out the abuse. Some will just be horny. Some will be bipolar or borderline and have hypersexuality as part of their condition. A lot will fake it too and become good at that. Some will want their regulars they prefer having sex with so will put more effort and make out its better than others. But both parties know it’s a short lived dead end thrill that can’t really develop into anything healthy.

 

They are for the money of course. Selling the idea they enjoy it could be considered part of their marketing.
There are guys who may match their preferences but they are there to make profit, nothing else. In the book "breaking the cycle" there is a chapter dedicated to this topic.
We don´t know their stories and most likely we will never know, but for sure if they could step out safely they would do.
You are not a Casanova if you pay for sex, however if you want please women, I would recommend you to start taking care of yourself, meet "real women" talk to them, listen to them, do not objectify them. Seduce them and be a charming man

 

A prostitute can tell you the truth. Or a family relative of a prostitute can tell you the truth. There are people who have never paid for sex, yet know the truth behind prostitution.

You might not get much helpful support or input if you are only seeking counsel from men who have paid for sex. If you truly want to address the hooker issue, then you should honestly accept feedback from everyone.

Also, you posted this in the Problematic Sexual Behavior forum, so it seems you think this is a problem. When people have problems here, they really should try to get as much help as possible. Limiting the feedback might work against you and your hooker problem.

 

Spoiler: triggering

So if you were a male escort and some hot ass gym bunny turned up for a session stripped down to her sexy toned body, gave you the best head you’d ever had then rode you till you came, keeping it intense and handling you better than your wife or girlfriend ever has. Would you honestly say you didn’t enjoy any of it and it was just for the money? Even psychopaths enjoy sex! Yea a load of them will fake it but you know when someone squirts and cums. Just like when you give your legitimate girl a good f. I’m not by any means saying keep wasting your life and money f.ing hookers. But yea in between a lot of shit fks. You’ll get some mind blowing ones, that’s what keeps you hooked and searching.