Hey Fapstronauts! My name is Andrew. I'm a 27 year old from Northern Colorado, USA. I started using porn somewhere in my early teens or before then. It's been so long that I can't remember when I started. It's been maybe three years since I started to realize how bad the negative effects of porn have been on my life and then it's been about two years that I've really been trying to fight it. Not long after I started researching and understanding the effects of porn, a friend of mine came out to me about his porn usage. We went out for drinks one night and he confessed to me that his wife had just found porn on his phone and was furious with him. Turns out he had been using porn since he was young too. We both talked about the negative effects, about how not only does it hurt the women we're in close relationship with, but how it hurts us personally. Since then we've been working to keep each other accountable. Having an accountability partner has been great but I've still not gotten past my longest streak of about 20 days. I want to go longer than that and I want to break my habit! I personally have only had one close relationship with a woman and with where I am now I feel so far from that person and it's hard to imagine myself connecting emotionally with a woman. I hate that I wasted so much of my life on porn and it really feels like I'm so far behind where I should be in friendships and relationships. I don't have the experience or confidence I see in other men and that saddens me. But mourning the past doesn't help the future so it's time to move forward and focus on improving. One of the things that brings me here is that last night, while I was sitting at home with nothing to do; I was wishing that there was a meetup for Fapstronauts. The support in this online community is good but there's something different about having people you can actually meet up with and talk about things with and encourage each other. I've explored the site a little bit and I don't see any sort of meet-up setup but I'd be totally willing to take on organizing a group in my area. Thoughts/encouragement definitely appreciated! Cheers! Andrew
hey buddy, congratulation for your decision. great idea yes I believe having an actual friend could be very supportive unfortunately for many of us it's not an option to meet in the actual face to face (because of privacy or other reasons) but if u could set up a group of close friends it could help a lot for yourself and others just have faith in your work and keep fighting
Welcome! It's never too late to start making a change. All the better that you've helped bring your friend to the realization as well.
