HI! I'm new and in nee of halp.

@Dente ,

I don't give advise. Sorry, I'm bad at it.

But, I do offer my experience, strength and hope.

My experience is similar to yours. I found myself spending hours doing pmo. Wasted time was only part of the problem. Staying at it for hours and hours only to find that nothing actually "pleased me" which resulted in PIED an DE.

Later this really killed any chances at real life sex. Heck, if the perfect pictures on the Internet wouldn't work, what chance did a real life human have?

So, I learned about NoFap. I cleared off everything from my computer. No internet connected devices in my room after bedtime.

Then, I threw out all the things that I used to pmo in my bedroom. Lube, sex toys, etc.

That was my experience and my strength.

As for my hope. I can't even think about big numbers with no pmo. 90 days sounds like 90 years to me. So, I'm taking it one day at a time. I didn't pmo today and I don't plan on it tomorrow. That has worked for a few 24 hours so far.

At first, it was just having to admit I was powerless over pmo, and to not give in to watching the first vid, the first picture.

Then, I hit a huge flatline. But, am coming out of it - in a good way I might add.

Lastly my hope is here in the group.

I like to think of pmo as a wolf. If I remain on the very edge or even the fringes of the group, the wolf will have an easier time of picking me off. But, in the middle of the group where I participate and communicate with the winners, the wolf will have a harder time of getting me.

Hope that helped and looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

L

 

@Dente ,

I'm not saying get rid of your computer. Just the things on it that make pmo so easy. And once alone in your room, then no internet connected devices. If your in a dorm room and have to have the computer in the room, figure out a way to make it difficult to get to.

L

 

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@Dente ,

Oh yes, blockers are so easy to add and remove. But, it gives you a minute or two to think. Sometimes that is all I need.