Hey newbie here, 23M with masturbation addiction looking for help.

Welcome @Dick Stone. Glad you are here.

Taking some time to learn about this problem will really help in your recovery. Plus, it will take you away from Porn for a while. Read the reboot material (available here => http://www.nofap.com/getting-started) and then come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good information and good advice, so don't skip it!

Also, this is a great post from a nofap veteran about what kind of things could help you during your reboot => https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/time-to-be-done-with-this.140257/page-25#post-1442099

As you start your recovery, perhaps start writing a journal? If you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

Also, stopping bad behaviours is only half the battle. This fight will probably also involve a lifestyle change. So try to add things into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't want to engage in PMO. Think about doing:

• Something you enjoy
• Something you're good at
• Something important
• Something for somebody else, without thought of reward

Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other, and you may find very useful insights from someone outside your age group or part of the world.

Look around the forums, get to know people. Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

I wish you a successful reboot.

~Orf

 

Hi again!

First, decide what you're abstaining from. Just porn? Both porn and masturbation? Or what is informally known as monk mode round here - porn and masturbation AND orgasm (meaning from sexual encounters)? That is your call.

The reboot material has advice about what to pick. If you're PMO'ing everyday, that's a pretty strong indicator of addiction, wouldn't you agree? You might benefit from a complete 90 days away from such things. However, don't be discouraged if you fail on your first try - it builds character and strength to keep on trying. So if you manage 1 day, then reset... Then 2 days and reset... Well, you're gradually winning the fight. Not the actions of a loser.

Depends on the person. For some, college work gives something to focus their time and energy on. And the social aspect can keep them away from PMO far easier.

For others, it can be a real challenge, especially if they're under stress and pressure and PMO is their go-to coping method. And, of course, they may be turned on like crazy because of all the people that attract them there.

If you are in this second group, make a plan and try to change how you deal with stress and disappoint. Even little changes add up, over time.

Again, depends on the person. If you are easily bored, you probably want to keep busy - just make sure you're doing some fun things too.

If you're constantly frazzled and stressed, finding a moment of peace and clarity can help keep the urges under control.

More realistically, you're probably going to need a combination of both.

Hope this helps.

 

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