1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Hey guys, new here

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Daudv3-V0id, May 17, 2015.

  1. Daudv3-V0id

    Daudv3-V0id Fapstronaut

    7
    10
    3
    hey guys my name is Josh, i'm from Bangalore and i just signed up...heard a lot about the site. I have been struggling with addiction for a few years now..and frankly i'm tired of white-knuckling my way before relapsing time and again...so here i am , trying to make a change...trying to take back the reins....thanks...cheers.
     
  2. Nomorelosttime

    Nomorelosttime Fapstronaut

    198
    85
    28
    Hi @Daudv3-V0id , welcome to nofap. I hope you find this a supportive and safe place to be. Being intentional and taking action is so important in this journey. Below I've posted a list of things you can do that may be helpful. I borrowed it from another poster who created it. It can be overwhelming because it is long, so in all seriousness, take some time to try these so you don't burn out too quickly. Peace to you in this journey.


    • Get educated - There are there standard three videos including a famous Ted talk called "Your Brain on Porn" which is highly recommended to a newbie. Again, these are mostly related to how porn effects the brain which you may not be so inclined towards if P is not really a problem for you. If your interested, check them out. There is a wealth of information on this forum. Explore and you will find a lot to relate to.
    • Start a NoFap journal - It is recommended practice to jot down a log of your journey and share whatever you want to. There is great power in knowing there are others who respect and appreciate your efforts and your struggles will help somebody in a similar predicament. I found it therapeutic to come back to my own previous entries when things got tough.
    • Know why your doing this - I think this is very important. A realization is different from motivation. The first streak after I joined the forum was easy but staying consistent became a problem until I had deep spiritual realizations which resulted in better abstinence. I think NoFap requires a change in world-view rather than using raw will-power to enforce a change in habits. It's kind of like the 'inner game' of NoFap.
    • Understand your triggers - Is there something in particular that is causing you to start fantasizing? Is chatting with a particular girl making you horny? Whatever it is, observe what they are and avoid them. Try to catch the whispers before they overcome you.
    • Do something - Your triggered. Now what? Don't just sit there waiting for your mind to get engulfed with the fantasy and get into the point of no return. Do something about it. Some suggest taking cold showers. Listen to music. Pray. Go outside. Exercise. Meditate. Clean your room. Whatever works for you. There's also a famous relapse prevention tool that a generous member of the community has made.
    • No edging - The only times you touch your penis is for peeing and maybe personal hygiene if your into that. Even morning wood is dangerous if your not careful.
    • Beware of the chaser effect - It's just like when you quit smoking for a long time and have one just for old times sake. Next thing you know, you've finished an entire packet in one hour. It's the same with fapping. We are all humans and we will fall down sometime and if you do, get back up, brush yourself and know your extra vulnerable. For me even wet-dreams have led to relapse because the dopamine fix urge was reintroduced in my system.
    • Focus - Shift focus to productive thoughts and activities. If you don't see it, you won't go there. There are no triggers visible when your focusing on the light.
    • Porn blockers - You should install the K9 porn blocker if you think you won't be able to abstain initially. It will give you the valuable time to realize what your doing and stop before it's too late. Some routers have ways to block websites or URL terms.
    • Get rid of the stash - Well, your a collector. Those special clips that you think cant be replaced, sorry to say, they have to go. Even the educational ones. The things you own end up owning you.
    • Replace habits - Find productive ways to fill up time you will save by not fapping. I suggest doing something that you've always wanted to do and gives you satisfaction and fulfillment.
    • Relationships - Spend more time with your loved ones and make new friends. Build a support system. If you don't know how to, then spend some time learning the skills you need and get out there.
    • Help others - It really helps your commitment to NoFap if you help others. There is probably no technique as powerful as the law of consistency for brainwashing yourself.
    • Set realistic goals - A habitual behavior that influences the complete endocrine system will not be easy to change. I found it useful to set the first target for 5 days then extend 5 days each time I'm successful. This way, I am always just so close to achieving the goal. Bite-sized targets.
    • Get a counter - To get your counter, click on any other counter and you can setup yours including a predated one. You can modify your signature as you wish.
    List of some useful NoFap resources:
     
    Daudv3-V0id likes this.

Share This Page