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Help with performance anxiety, please!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AlmostThere, Mar 9, 2016.

  1. Mar 9, 2016 #1
    AlmostThere

    AlmostThere Fapstronaut

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    Hi fellow fapstronauts, I have been clean off PMO for 3 weeks now and the benefits have started coming in, I can have sex with my gf now but sometimes I still suffer from performance anxiety and can't maintain boners. It is really depressing when it happens, she is very supportive but it makes me feel like less of a man. I think my anxiety might come from being a bit overweight while she looks incredibly good. I am going to the gym regularly and seeing a little bit of progress but I want to be able to perform without worrying, can you guys suggest anything?
     
    AlmostThere, Mar 9, 2016
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  2. Mar 9, 2016 #2
    shutdown66

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    I would recommend, self-talk, you've GOT the girl man, she loves you clearly, you just need to SAY to yourself that she loves you for you, you may be bigger than her, BUT she has chosen you to be her Boyfriend.... this type of self-talk also helps with (jealousy and inferior feelings in a relationship too).

    I'd recommend meditation techniques for anxiety issues, you just need to stop over-thinking man.

    you've already taken the first step in going to a Gym.


    maybe try some other confidence raising things like forcing yourself to engage in conversation with a complete stranger per day, these small things boost confidence.
     
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  3. Mar 9, 2016 #3
    Rav70

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    Have you ever taken turns giving each other full body massages? Great way to relax and the bf and I always have amazing sex afterwards, sometimes during... :)
     
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  4. Mar 13, 2016 #4
    AlmostThere

    AlmostThere Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your positive motivation mate, past 3 days I've been having great sex with my gf and I am almost fully recovered. I am also able to get erections after ejaculation and have sex 3 times in a row sometimes. NoFap works for sure. Thanks for your comment bro, it rly helped me
     
    AlmostThere, Mar 13, 2016
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