So , I used to be an addict , I've cut back a LOT on porn usage but I still masturbate sometimes , but the thing is my libido is very low , i have 0 urges to be with a woman , I guess I'll have to go hard mode eventually , I stopped P but not necessarily MO , and secondly although I'm straight , I feel zero to negligible attraction towards females , now as I understand , this might be because my brain is addicted to all that novelty of P usage , like I've seen all sorts of fantasies , models and well lit rooms to superstimulate my brain , while years of P abuse ...So let's come to it then , I haven't been with a woman in a long long time , and now I've got the chance , I'm afraid I'll face sexual issues if Im with a woman , like i already have 0 libido , maybe I won't be able to get it up , or maybe the actual feeling of being with an actual real woman will stimulate me enough to experience normal sexual behaviour ... I KNOW , THE ONLY SOLUTION IS TO DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS ...but don't you get it , putting all that effort and feelings in a relationship with a woman only to find out I can't even do what a man is supposed to do , the embarassment , the disappointment of it , I'm not ready for it , so i just thought , some experienced brothers here may be able to help me out , should I try to be with this woman or first get my sexual health in order , i mean maybe it's alright even now , just needs to be properly stimulated , OR i could just go to a hook€r if that's what it takes...please share your opinions and help me anyway u can... Thank you...
I've been single all my life, so I don't think I can be much help. Anyway, most people on this forum will probably tell you to a) tell her about your situation, or b) heal up a bit first and then give it a try. Still, I say get to know her for a bit, but don't try and rush things. Find out what her long term plans are (i.e. marriage, children, casual fling), and try to see if she's your type. If I was in your situation, I'd probably do that, and then see what happens. If she's functional, I doubt she's in any rush to get to bed, assuming it's a relationship you both want.
No one knows what you should do. The only thing I can say is what I would do, and that is to proceed with this woman and you will find out. And stop worrying about anything.
Much Thanks for the input man , really appreciate it..sometimes you just need a bro to tell you to stop worrying..
My first few sexual experiences after years of struggling with my porn addiction were pretty bad, but I still had to go through them in order for things to get gradually better. Go for it and relax your expectations. Enjoy whatever happens and know that things will only get better if you work on them, even if that means exposing yourself to "failure".
