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Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by John Meacham, Nov 12, 2017.

  1. Nov 12, 2017 #1
    John Meacham

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    Hello,
    I have been on NoFap for 3 weeks because I suspect PIED, but I am not for certain now. I am a 19 year old virgin male with little sexual experience. Before NoFap I had been masturbating for 6 years maybe about once a day or less. I only used porn about half the time and only got to vanilla porn. 3 months ago i tried to have sex and could not maintain an erection. I realized no matter what I did during masturbation I still couldnt get an erection. At the same time however I had burning urination and frequent urination. I got blood and urine tests done and nothing was wrong with me. The urologist told me to wait 6 weeks and if it doesnt get better come back. I waited about 4 weeks and my urinary frequency left but I still had a slight burning.

    During my first 3 weeks of nofap my sex drive was incredible, not for porn or masterbating, but if i saw a girl on the sidewalk or at school i couldnt help but stare. But, no matter what still could not get an erection. But, about two weeks into nofap I started getting decent random erections, not completely full by like 80-90 pecent. Then I managed to attract a beautiful girl, like 9 out of 10, and I begin to start seeing her. My body was used to ejaculating once a day so I felt really horny. We began making out and I felt like I had a pretty good erection and it was rubbing between her legs... then all of a sudden I came!! It was so weird and awkward but she never noticed. Then 5 days later the same thing happened to me again! After this things were getting a little better up until about 3 days ago. We were making out and I took her bra of and began fingering her, no erection no matter what, like a 60 percent erection. Then I realized at the same time my erection began disappearing I began to have more symptoms of urinary frequency. Could this be PIED? Or something physically wrong with me. I am seeing a urologist tomorow.
     
    John Meacham, Nov 12, 2017
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  2. Nov 12, 2017 #2
    Scared Human

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    Go see a urologist if you like, but don't turn back to PMO or any artificial sexual stimulation. You could just be in a flatline, it's supposed to be scary.

    Remember that you've only gone three weeks, some people are needing months. It's great that you're seeing this girl, don't let this make you push her away. When it comes to sex, be honest with her. Tell her you're a virgin and are quite nervous because of your first sexual experience and take it slow. Explore, play and have fun with no pressure, it'll be fun for the both of you. That's what rewiring is, wiring your brain to real girls. You can't just abstain from orgasm and expect to be normal again, you need to be active in your reboot.

    I'm probably not the best person to give you advice, but I was in a similar situation. Though I'm still very much a virgin and am still struggling, I've gotten a lot better.
     
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  3. Nov 13, 2017 #3
    Sideshow606

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    Yea bro congratulations your 85% there
    Cumming quick is part of your recovery ...
    It will get better with time ...but you have to be proactive with girls
    Good luck and stay strong
     
    Sideshow606, Nov 13, 2017
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  4. Nov 13, 2017 #4
    Anonymous86

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    So abstaining from orgasm won't completely heal, is what you're saying? You HAVE to rewire?
     
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  5. Nov 13, 2017 #5
    Scared Human

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    Rewiring isn't something like a task. It could be anything from talking, looking or being next to real girls. It's just basically getting used to real life instead of pixels on a screen-alone in your room.

    I'd say abstaining is a form of rewiring, but sometimes it isn't enough and you need to take it up a notch. Like I said, it shouldn't be seen as a task, it's actually fun. Making-out with and touching girls, I wouldn't complain about that

    read this for a bit more. there's also a whole section on this site about rewiring, just Google "yourbrainonporn rewiring"

    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/age...one-more-confident-social-anxiety-almost-gone
     
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  6. Nov 13, 2017 #6
    Anonymous86

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    Would one be able to rewire by casually talk to people at parties? I don't really have a huge desire to make out.
     
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  7. Nov 13, 2017 #7
    Scared Human

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    I guess, man. I mean, if you're trying to recover from ED and have a healthy sex-life, then touching and kissing is a big part of that. But if you have no desire for that then idk what to say. Do whatever activity that makes you feel good as long as it's not artificial sexual stimuli
     
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  8. Nov 14, 2017 #8
    Anonymous86

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    I do have a desire. It's just that my libido is so low, there's no real desire at the moment.
     
    Anonymous86, Nov 14, 2017
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  9. Nov 14, 2017 #9
    STAR DUST

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    next time, only ask her to kiss you down there, and that will help..... a lot
     
    STAR DUST, Nov 14, 2017
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