I hear veteran NoFappers saying not to avoid urges, but to confront them. To channel them into something greater, AKA sexual transmutation. The problem is, I prefer to avoid sexual thoughts all together. I can make a pretty tough mental barrier to kick all sexual thoughts out, and usually get high streaks this way. But is it right to never think about sex? Morally, I think so. I think sex should be experienced and not fantasized. However, if it means that I have a low sex drive and I can't tap into sexual transmutation, feeling lifeless and low on energy, then maybe it's not worth it. I've been struggling with this question for a year now. I feel lifeless when I don't think about sex for a while, but when I do I eventually relapse. What's the right approach?
