Hello i am 35 years old started fapping at age of 14 .it destroyed my life in terms of intelligence,confidence.. health... bt my question is can NoFap cure my cowardness... i always avoid confrontation and never have gts to argue.. unlesss somebody really does me very bad... i m very sad for my coward nature...social anxiety... never able to have friens
Hey, great question. I want to share some personal experience/insight which might be helpful in your situation. I have been trying to understand why I have been so susceptible to porn and masturbation...one underlying reason I found was that I was constantly frustrated by external demands that weren't aligned with my goals or what I wanted in life. The real problem was that I didn't know how to be assertive to reject obligations that I didn't want. I always put others before me (maybe because I felt that I wasn't deserving to be on the same level) and this meant I was constantly upset with myself for my lack of courage, and resentful of extra work and things I didn't want to do because I was passive and didn't want to confront others about things that annoyed/hurt me. What PMO did was make my 'cowardice' and lack of assertiveness worse. Because now I had to deal with the shame of not being able to control myself. So I had external lack of control, and now, internal lack of control. Feelings of shame, powerlessness and resentment intensified the deeper I got into PMO. Now to answer your question: Doing nofap, even during my failed reboots, made me 100x more courageous. I am not exaggerating. I felt more confident in myself (because I knew I could have discipline in my life); I felt less shame and guilt in front of others; and because my mind was clearer and my anxieties had lessened, I was more confident in my decision making and conviction. Nofap is definitely an important tool to develop your courage. However, I would also recommend going on an assertiveness training course, to teach you how to deal with confrontation properly, and how to be assertive. You can also find online e-modules on assertiveness from MOOC sites like Udemy or EdX which are also useful because they will teach you basic tools on how to structure your feelings and prepare you for confrontation.
