Hello All

No worries ..... everyone here has made errors....... ALL humans have made errors .......

T--O--D--A--Y IS A NEW OPPORTUNITY FOR SUCCESS !

You will get about 1% stronger in Confidence, Less Social Anxiety, and 'Chick-Magneticness' and
Clearer Thinking everyday you do no PMO.

You can start a long streak ASAP !


Free tips for Success:

1. You literally don't have to watch porn ever again. (self.NoFap)
submitted 2 years ago by BazookaMorpheus 88 Days

2. When PMO is not even an option (self.NoFap)
submitted 3 years ago * by Kestral 233 days
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2dw0al/when_pmo_is_not_even_an_option/

3. Google: "The pain of self-discipline [4] is far less than the pain of regret [8]" ..... Find an image you like......... and save it onto your computer or phone. (Ex: Go outside and get some fresh air. Temptations usually last only 10-20 minutes.)

4. Daily or Weekly Rewards -- treats or dessert (for good behavior); or buy something related to a hobby you really enjoy; listen to your favorite songs, etc.

5. Some guy on line had this great advice: " Never touch your dick……[or female parts for women]."
Tip……. when showering use a wash cloth

6. Humor ....... Google: "Glad you could join me Mr. Bond". Funny, somewhat possessed toddler............... Anyone know the Villain the toddler is supposed to represent?

7. Click on the NoFap "Emergency" button and find an image you like. Keep the image in an open window on your computer or phone (positive influence on your mind….. and behavior): http://i.imgur.com/bbWSvJx.jpg

BONUS I -- Fasting can help you have more self control; and has many health benefits. You can skip meals; or entire days -- your choice. If you skip breakfast, you can use GREEN TEA (WITH CAFFEINE) as a low cost, mild, healthy stimulant that gives you energy.

BONUS II -- Go to NoFap.com…………….. Encourage others or give them Advice [gets the focus off of ourselves and on onto others]. Works Very Good!

BONUS III -- This may be the most important: Are You Willing to Do Whatever It Takes? (Get up off your Heinekin [butt] and go outside; go to a market or gas station at 3 am [anonymous supervision] and buy a snack or soda; go for a walk around the block at 5am. As soon as you make the (AYWTDWIT?) commitment -- there is an extremely High Success Rate.

Good luck

 

Hey @Sad_but_true ,

Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place.

I'm just a regular member on here, so take what I say as my experience. I found that I needed to:

1. Learn the NoFap program.

2. Get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:



It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS - I Think of pmo like a wolf. When I stay near the center of the group and stay with the winners, the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, if I stop working at NoFap and stray near the edges of the community, then the wolf can pick me off.

 

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

@Chriss27
@bartbar
@mankiam33
@Freedom Fighter
@CrushPornBeneathYourFeet
@JakeO5
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!


Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

--> L

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:


@Barry Barnstein - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138399/
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@Freedom Fighter - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144710/
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@mankiam33 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/164671/
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@Inqonyama - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/166981/
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@bartbar - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/163785/
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@Alikersantti - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155162/
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@Reverent - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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@BigDawg913 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@kropo82 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513/
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@Protagoras - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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@JakeO5 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152940/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

--> L

PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page.

Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.

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Hey @Sad_but_true ,

My rule of thumb is to spend about half as much time working my recovery as I did pmo. Which still gives me a 50% decrease in computer usage.

--> L

 

I welcomed you on your other journal and profile page a moment ago. But, I just want to take a moment here to mention that there are forums here where spouses of porn users write and support each other. It's the rebooting in relationship forum...and the sub forum called partner support. Perhaps your wife could read/write there and find support from other women who have been there...just a thought...