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Has anyone overcome PE by going NoFap? If so, I'd love to hear about it...

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by enufisenuf1, Oct 28, 2013.

  1. Oct 28, 2013 #1
    enufisenuf1

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    I am still new to the forum and NoFap and I had a question I hope a veteran of sorts could help me with. Ive read that ED is a common issue, especially among the younger NoFappers. Mu issue has always been the opposite. PMO has made me have issue with coming too fast and a general state of overarousal. I have performance anxiety as well so the being over aroused in tandem with that, its a been pretty problematic. Even after a girl becomes my girlfriend, although i can go much longer before coming, its still not as long as I like. I know a lot of this has to do with PMO both directly and indirectly.

    Has any other NoFapstronauts over come this issue or noticed any changes for the better in this regard?
    Thanks!
     
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  2. Oct 30, 2013 #2
    enufisenuf1

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    no one? really? I find it hard to believer i am the only one who has suffered with over-arousal and excitement that leads to coming faster than expected with women. Love to hear from anyone who noticed improvements in this area after NoFap for extended time.

    Note this phenomena goes away if ive been with the girl for a long time, like a girlfriend. I think the ablity to make myself come fast with porn trained my system to respond like this and also as we all know. Its funny most people seem to have this ED issue where sex with a girl is LESS intense/arousing where as with me, its TOO arousing. anyway..

    Thanks
     
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  3. Oct 30, 2013 #3
    wayneking

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    my only advice is work on your fellatio skills. If you can make a woman climax, she probably won't care much if you blow your load in a few minutes. The more you worry about PE, the more it will become a problem. Everything is connected to our brain and if you're all worried about blowing your beans, it's gonna happen. I have a problem about losing my erection, not a physical one, but one in my mind. I think it's going soft when it's not and then I usually make it soft from the anxiety.

    so in summary; up your foreplay/oral game and just enjoy sex. If you then orgasm after making her orgasm and you feel its a problem, just play it cool with a compliment... "I can't control myself around you" etc. What woman could possibly moan about that? :)
     
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  4. Oct 30, 2013 #4
    plain

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    I think you mean cunnalingus.
     
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  5. Oct 31, 2013 #5
    enufisenuf1

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    its so funny you wrote that, waykening, because ive been doing that my entire sexual life. Being good at oral on her has helped a lot to reduce the anxiety since if I can make her come, then there is a lot of pressure off as you say. However, some women arent comfortable with that, especially early in the relationship. Also some women think if a man comes soon, it means he is selfish when actually if she knew what was going on in my head, ie trying my best to NOT come, it would be pretty funny.

    I also come fast with oral on me, so it narrows the options and spontaneity in sex. Im thinking "she has to let me go down on her first and she better come, or..". So sex isnt really that enjoyable as you can imagine. I hope with the reduced exposure to PMO, I will regain some normalcy in this regard and just wondered if others had.
     
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  6. Dec 4, 2013 #6
    ropodobotrop

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    sound slike in your case PE is not a physical but a psychological problem. (only very very few people have a physically caused PE problem, mostly its psychological)

    actually i have the same combination of problems and for me as well it normally gets better the longer im with a girl.

    the good news: this stuff can be brought under control. you have to train to understand your body and your arousal, and that can only be done with training. its maybe the wrong forum to mention it here but you first have to practice with masturbation (try without P) and try not to cum for as long as possible, best not at all. all while not stopping with M. Very important: relax, ease your mind and your body, dont think of anything at all, enjoy the very moment. most PE guys are too tense and too focused on cumming.

    its called the stop start technique (or the other way around) helped me a great deal. if you managed to masturbate for a long time without cumming(of course while being aroused) you learned a lot about your body you can switch and try it with a real girl, but be patient probably wont work from the beginning.
     
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  7. Dec 9, 2013 #7
    antiquatedlife

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    I can relate, for the last 20 years or so of MO I typically come pretty quick, even if I spend a few hours looking at porn maybe stroking a little, i tend to wait till I found exactly what I was looking for in that session and then its over pretty quick. I was a virgin when I got married, as was my wife. My PMO didn't get better after marriage, only worse, but I found that once penetration happened, I only last about as long as I do when I masturbate. It's frustrating to be 9 years into a marriage and still only last a very short time, I am hoping with a reboot of my brain I can begin to work on enjoying the pleasures of sex with my wife instead of just the pleasure of having an O, as it typical goes when I PMO. Keep up the good work fellas, hope we are all making great progress.
     
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