A lil about myself, I'm a good looking guy, funny, charismatic but like everyone here I struggle with porn addiction. I talk to women all the time, get their numbers and hang out a lot but because of porn and possible PIED or DE, I usually dont go farther than kissing, leading the girl to want to be just friends. I know the simple solution is quitting and I am, progress is slow but I am. I just needed to talk to someone, do any of you guys deal with this?
I say you just go for it even with the risk. If you let yourself become dominated in fear of advancing with women due to PIED or DE than you have two choices, you even said one of them yourself. Continue relapsing and not giving 100% to fixing your problem, or Stop relapsing and giving 100% to fixing your problem for good once and for all. The choice is yours you just have to decide that you are going to be who you want to be. No more giving into it instead adapt your mindset and change your behavior in order to stay disciplined and trust the process. Good luck and I know you will make the right choice. -TheBigBadWolf
I'll happily give you some bad advice Frame of mind. I convinced myself that, since I want a partner, orgasming in any other way other than with a partner would be admission of me being a weak, miserable, censored, censored, censored, piece of censored that couldn't ever possibly get a partner. I know that to be bullshit, so I'm not admitting to anything close to it. So, there's no way on earth I'll use porn or orgasm alone It's just not an option. As for ED, you can pretty much count on it that it will happen the first few times you try. Just assume so. When you're stressed it doesn't go up (see about sympathetic and parasympathetic systems). So warm up the girl to the idea that a few times it will give way to other appendages to get close and personal before it goes all bananas about all her various bits and pieces. So when it doesn't work, big deal, have fun anyway. As soon as you start having fun you won't be able to point the damn thing down.
Can't even muster the courage to approach a girl, so you're better than me on that. Nofap doesn't solve everything.
This is exactly my way of dealing with my PIED! My reasoning is that once you remove the possibility for your brain to get that insane dopamine rush (orgasm) in any way that is not real sex, it will have no other option than get rewired as quickly as possible. This is working wonders on myself, this is definitely not bad advice!
