Hanging by a thread

The answers to your questions are “Yes”. You can do this and you will learn to trust yourself. You are ahead of the game in that your wife knows of your issue and is supportive. And you cannot do this alone. This habit was borne in secrecy and isolation and has to be combated with honesty and connection. If you don’t already have a therapist, get one. I would suggest a support group like a weekly NoFap group or a 12 step group like SAA. I cannot emphasize enough the power of sharing this with another human being who is going through the same or similar thing and can relate and be non-judgmental and supportive. And you need to educate yourself on this issue, but most importantly, dig down deep as to why you go to PMO as your solution: solution to what - feeling inadequate or not good enough, feeling like you don’t fit it or needing to be affirmed, a childhood trauma or abuse not processed and dealt with, feeling resentful, etc. We all have our story and reason(s) and we need to dig down and understand it and work to heal it so that we have other ways to deal with our pain and hurt and not need to go to PMO. You are worth it, our wives are worth it, and your relationship is worth it. Best wishes for your success.

 

Being addicted to both porn and chemicals and alcohol and quiting both can be done I did them both ! I will say not both at once in my case, quit one the other popped up mostly later and quit that, do I have magic solution? No ! Read about how people quit porn which this site is a good start, and find out about quiting weed if it's affecting you negatively in a place that specifically addresses that !Welcome and good luck