Guilt after masturbation

That's kinda what masturbation does you know...

The only way out is by not doing it in the first place.

 

This happens to all of us brother. Every time we masturbate, after that it feels like an act of disgust and shame. The thing is not how you masturbated but under what circumstances. For example- You'll feel terribly bad when you masturbate to porn because you realize how a sick thing like this can give you pleasure. On the other hand, if you have sex with a real person, like someone you love (not a prostitute), then you'll feel relaxed and better because you form a different type of physical and emotional intimacy with that person, which you can't make with porn.

The point is whenever you masturbate to porn or fantasizing about porn you'll definitely feel bad. But its not the end of the world for us man. Think about the positive things in your life or something which makes you happy and then commit to yourself once again that I'm not gonna do that crap ever again. You have to build self confidence for this thought every time you relapse. Never ever for one second let your guard down around it. Take my example, after 2 days of not PMO'ing I couldn't resist the urge to watch porn again. i played the video for 10 seconds and then stopped, I didn't masturbate. But I equally felt a little down as I asked myself why did I do it when I am on this path to making myself better? I immediately reset my counter back to 0 days. Be strict and disciplinary with yourself. See those increasing numbers as a motivation. Interact with people on the forum. We are all there to help you brother. Good luck

 

It's normal and healthy to feel guilt after masturbation, it means you're still connected to your real feelings.

Masturbation is abnormal and shameful. You're literally fucking your hand while you think you're having sex with a woman. Think about two situations of people walking in on you: while you're having sex with a real woman or when you're masturbating. In which situation will you instinctively feel shame?

 

Okay, but first my story... and why I’m reaching out to you now.
I started down the road to my PMO addiction 40 years ago at the same age as you are now: 17 years old. It started out innocently, but without the loving guidance of a mature and compassionate male figure, it progressed and consumed the better part of the next 40 years.
I am speaking to you now as I would have hoped someone would have spoken to me.
Don’t worry too much about what’s happened up to now. Give yourself all the love and compassion you can to build the best life you can for yourself. A life that you and everyone will be proud of. In short, believe that you can ultimately become the hero of your life and inspiration to others like your future children, girlfriend, wife, friends, acquaintances, and fapstronaunts, both young and old. Because if you can move forward in the right direction at this most challenging time of your life, you will be a hero to us all.
Now, read and learn all you can about PMO addiction here, and how people are dealing with their struggles and the negative ramifications of staying in the addiction to PMO.
You are not alone; nor are you especially bad or flawed. Neither will you ever be better or worse than anyone else.
Use compassion for yourself and others to overcome the negativity of self-loathing.
Love is the way.
I know you are here because you want to love yourself the way you know you deserve.
Be good to yourself, now and forever! Don’t give up and hide. Continue to seek out help and support (as you are doing now) and always remember that you are loved.
You seem to intuitively understand one crucial thing already... that you are the King of your life.
Be a kind, generous, and compassionate ruler to realize your dreams of a better world.
I truly pray for your success in life and overcoming your addiction to PMO.
Just say no to PMO!

 

This is key! Being good to yourself is SO IMPORTANT . Feed yourself good things. Feed your mind and body good stuff. Seek out what you believe is good stuff for you.
Enjoy NOFAP.

 

Masturbation is abnormal and makes one feel guilty with or without any religion. When adolescents masturbate, they instinctively hide even if most of religious education never focuses or even mentions masturbation or shame. It's instinctual to feel shame and it's normal to feel shame as it's a shameful activity. Some human tribes don't even have a word for it and they don't know how to perform it https://www.theatlantic.com/health/...bation-and-homosexuality-do-not-exist/265849/ , which shows that it's not an activity that people HAVE to do.

Masturbation is also not statistically normal, as most animals don't ever masturbate, the ones (some monkey species) that do are in multimale-multifemale groups (but humans are not multimale-multiffemale). And the ones that do, do it mostly without ejaculation. Also, the ones that masturbate are lower in hierarchy rank.

And yes, obviously if you masturbate you will have less sperm for your partner or potential partner, which directly interferes with the natural purpose of reproduction and bonding (as sperm makes the woman physiologically and psychologically bond to you).

And also yes, masturbation will affect your brain development and sexual tastes in a bad way.

The fact that you don't feel guilt after masturbation shows that you're just way too deep in it and it will be a long way to crawl out of.

And it would be healthy for you to reconsider religion and stop rejecting it.

@bUIPOT Yes, it's not good you no longer feel ashamed. It's normal to feel ashamed. Shame is not an inherently bad emotion.

 

Embrace the guilty feelings and remind yourself of them when cravings arise. Keep at it and the cravings will ease over time

 

The bad feeling is your body telling you to stop wasting it's seed!

 

That's a good thing actually -- let it motivate you to not do it.

 

Something that you might want to consider is that your guilt isn't necessarily 100% psychological. There is also a bio-chemical component. When you masturbate you are flooding your system with dopamine...afterward glucocorticoids and other neuro-transmitters bring you back to your baseline, and hence you feel a pronounced "low". When you are stimulating that dopamine system habitually as we do with chronic PMO you become desensitized and actually fall below your baseline making that low feeling of guilt and shame that much worse.

Depending of course of your religious and spiritual convictions masturbation in an of itself isn't really an issue. It's doing it chronically and in particularly with the unnatural over stimulation of porn that make it problematic. If you are masturbating periodically and feeling a bit low afterward...that's probably pretty normal. If you are doing it to mask other emotional issues or to deal with stress (as opposed to actually addressing your real problems) you are probably on a bad path.

For me in particular masturbation was always a way of escaping from negative emotions and it was never something I could do just in moderation; this isn't the case for everybody.

 

First of all, accept the fact that masturbation is an well exercise, that could retain you alive and could make your life better .Lot of doctors and studies have confirmed this and got published. Find them and read them. Here, have a few of them as a starter.


So its perfectly normal for you to masturbate even if you like a girl very much. It has nothing to do with your masturbation. In fact its perfectly normal even if you continue to do it after being in a relationship.

 

Those are all lies.