Hello, I've been following you guys for some time but I finally decided to sign up. I'm in the process of making wholesale changes in my life to become healthier and more mature. Signing up on here is one piece of an overall plan that I've been implementing to improve my life. I'm a single 50 year old living in Southern New England. Never been married, no kids. Been engaged twice. Did the online dating thing throughout my 30s and had quite a few one-nighters but never could seem to have an LTR. I'm an IT consultant by trade and of course, internet access is a constant part of my life. Fortunately, I've never had issues at work with porn but it's still a problem nonetheless. I was clean for a period about 5-6 years thru a Celebrate Recovery program at church. Unfortunately the program was dissolved and eventually went back to porn after having a romantic disappointment about a year ago. I'm a binge viewer. I go days, sometimes a week or 2 w/o PMO and then I binge for 2-3 days and go back. Along with this, I'm working out more and trying to eat better (I need to lose about 60-70 lbs). Also taking supplements to try to help detox. I know I need to stop the PMO to have a better dating life and have a real relationship. Just joined a community service organization in my hometown as well to get out more. Anyways, glad to be aboard and looking forward to working with you guys. --C.N.M.
Hey man, Welcome! You definitely seem to have a better grip on your porn addiction than I have at the moment. Abstaining for 2-3 weeks is a great accomplishment even if you binge in between. And I feel you on those binges. They feel horrible. I would recommend that for your weight you should consider looking into the ketogenic diet. That's the one I'm doing and I've been getting great results. Well anything that is a paleo diet is good. I would watch dr. Jason fung ted talk on YouTube. Or butter makes your pants fall off. That guy lost a crap ton of weight. I hope that helps. I haven't ever had a long term relationship either. Best wishes mate.
Hi Ichiro, Thanks for the warm welcome! One of my new mantras has been "Porno is Poison!" I keep trying to tell myself that every day. It truly is poison. It saps masculinity and it's an artificial substitute for the real thing. All mental illnesses are basically not having a grip on reality in one way or another. The solution is searching out and searching out the truth where we've been lied to. But the real key is integrating that truth into our lives once it has been discovered. That's the REAL challenge. Regarding diet, my problem is that cooking is not one my strong suits and I eat restaurant food a lot. I'm starting to shop for myself more and am eating more raw vegetables and taking supplements such as iodine and selenium to help detox and improve my metabolism. I'm been going to the gym a couple times a week for the last year or so but I've been doing cardio exclusively. A couple of weeks ago I just added resistance training to my regimen. Hopefully this will help. Thanks for the tip on ketogenic diet. I'll take a look. --CNM
Wise words man. I should quote you on that Seems like you have good discipline. I'm going to look into that selenium and iodine supplements. Thanks for the idea. Best wishes man
Well, my discipline is improving but it's not where it needs to be. I wouldn't be here if that was the case, now, would I?? Thanks for the encouragement tho. I tried to post the links to where I get my iodine and selenium from, but because I'm a noob they won't let me post them yet. They are top quality products and I've noticed a marked improvement since I started taking them around the holidays. I have thyroid issues and these supplements are better than taking the synthetic prescription stuff. Also the exercise is the best thing for it.
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you. In addition to your diet plan, what are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
Well, my strategy is to get busy living life and minimizing my time spent surfing the internet or sitting in front of the TV. I recently re-joined a community service organization that has regular events both service-oriented and social every month. I've also decided to teach an adult-ed class at my local high school on computer security (I'm an IT consultant). Both these things are vehicles for connecting with the community at large and building relationships. I just turned 50 a few months ago and I'm tired of being stuck. Eventually you reach a point where you get sick and tired of being sick and tired. However, there are days like today where I'm snowed in and can't do much. Right now I'm doing laundry and cleaning up. NoFap is another tool in my toolbox for those times where I'm alone and cooped up inside. I've realized that giving up porn just for it's own sake isn't enough. Nature abhors a vacuum. If you give up something negative, replace it with something positive. The reason for me joining NoFap is that I need a place to go when I'm alone and tempted. My church used to provide that support but the program they had ended and there is no real alternative. There needs to be a place to go when things finally do get quiet. So I'll be on here on days (or nights) like today when nothing else is going on. Perhaps by watching others' progress and helping to contribute to that progress will be yet another weapon in the arsenal. --CNM
