Getting small or semi erections and a huge sensitivity with my new girlfriend after years of nofap

So I got my dream girl, she is like the best person in both looks and personality.
We started very slow and steady to let the passion grow and develop by building a solid
emotional connection and trust first. In the moments of our being together I felt random solid erections when I was hugging her on dancing with a very close and intimate hold with her. We almost had sex on the secret hiding place on the public space. But I thought asking her to be my gf before sex.

But now when I had dinner in her place and deciding to get intimate with her, my little dude went dead and fully limp with a naked girlfriend on my side. I said I had a performance anxiety mixed up with a little stress for not getting erection. Yet couple of days after that I went to my bed and accidentaly brushed my hand against my little dude and it went fully erect like nothing was wrong.

So it's working alright but in my own room (alone) and not with her in her place, I think I just feel discomfortable on sharing my intimacy with her (because mostly of whacking off alone in my room and not many meaningful relationships in my past) and then again for the second time, it barely went half erect when we tried it again in her place.

So I told her my story about my P addiction and I must feel uncomfy sharing my intimacy with her, she was intelligent and understanding about it, but I just want to know how other post-addict guys went back into intimate relationships with their gf-s or wives and managed to rediscover and got over the anxiety of performing and sharing their intimacy for the first time - How long did it took and did you use any means or help with vuagra's to make this process more smooth and faster?

I thank you very much for reading this and maybe providing any tips - I wish you well and pleasant holidays!

 

Over 500 days for sure, tho there have been some peaks and edging couple of times, but I havent orgasmed to porn and fapping anymore for more than 500 days.

 

Can't really say if i had sex with my hand everyday and it led me to depression, boredom and loss of motivation would have resulted the same if i had sex with my gf almost every day that would lead me to getting bored and getting too used with her that sex becomes dissatisfying and escalates to more extreme types of getting pleasure with added in Coolidge effect.

 

It's quite impressive to have kept sex interesting enough that it wont become boring with one person throughout many years since we naturally crave fore novelty, its something for me to learn. Have you ever had a ED with someone?
I think I still have this fear of getting addicted to sex like in my early days - I rejected it totally when I had my first ED with a girlfriend many years ago and went on to a nofap journey to get out of the addiction but yes, stress, anxiety, mental conditions and fears of getting addicted keep me from feeling comfortable in intimacy with her. Found a medical electrical device to cure erections gonna try that for starters.

 

Well bro, once you find a girl who is a wife material to have kids with, do whatever you can to improve the ED, if you get it up when you are alone then it mostly is a pshychological issue. Like with me, she is like so great and nice and I had huge performance anxieties and worries of not being able to last long or get it up and so on.

You and your sexual self needs to adjust and feel comfortable around her. We tried different foreplays with no intention to have sex and just enjoyed eachothers company - that's just amazing in itself to build trust and intimacy.
Times went by and when I felt comfortable around her I had doctor give me a V-pill just in case.
And optionally a 1 month long remedy for taking a similar pill (Tadalafil/Tadalafilum) that helps to increase blood flow to the P.

I took the pill, we did some sweet foreplay and it got up, and that's the first time we had sex and after that it's pretty stable intimacy with her.
I am also in my 1 month remedy and now I get strong erections with her, everytime if we kiss and play, so it's pretty good and everything is going just right with us.

 

When I tried out with my girl for the first time, I honestly told her that: I have performance anxiety and little confused with my intimate self, because I used to watch porn a lot in the past and my inability to get erect has nothing to do with you being in someway unsuitable for me. And she was very supportive and understanding - if she doesnt know the truth, she may think and come up with reasonings and solutions, that may be wrong in the first place and very damaging for future intimacy and relationship.

I would try and determine how important money is for her and does she expects you to pay for her lifestyle, or does she wants to be a mother and a wife to someone in a stable relationship.