From Porn, To Relationship, To Super Lonely.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Frizzy, Aug 8, 2017.

  1. Frizzy

    Frizzy Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys im new here... its funny that Ive come across this community because i was actually just bored and was just about to fap again but i knew what was awaiting me when i finished... nothing! Im 25 and ive been jerking it since 10 yrs old thanx to my early run in with porn but it isnt until now that im actually seeing how the constant masturbation has negatively impacted my life. The days when i dont masturbate atleast once are rare. It seems that my need to fap is constantly triggered by boredom, lonliness, thirst for a quick jolt of pleasure... kinda like a drug. Im actually fairly good looking with a introverted personality, so finding a sexual partner wasnt that hard for me. I did, in some embarrassing moments, find it hard to get an erection while with a girl. After throwing out an excuse, the truth was always because either i had masturbated earlier that day or because i just wasn't turned on, due to the porn just numbing my senses to the female form. At 19 i had my first serious relationship and with her too I sometimes could not perform. It made her feel bad because she would think i just wasnt sexually attracted to her. She didnt fap but i did, alot, and that caused an inbalance. She was always ready and horny but even though i was able to perform most of the time, sometimes i just couldnt and there was no other excuse but the porn and the fapping but i never told her that, i always said that i was tired or that i was focused on something else. I mean come on a young 19 yrs old dude having trouble getting it up, somethings wrong there. Now that we broke up (for unrelated reasons... i think) i find myself now 25 alone, messy room, no real ambition... i just come home from work, lay down, rub one out and watch tv or play games... yeah i know its sad but thats why im here because i see it now. I need to start fresh, find motivation, change my mentality, get healthy and feel great and i think it starts here, freeing myself from this obscured vision of sex that i have. I used to tell myself that i wasnt an addict but after really realizing that ive been jerking off about once or twice a day for the past 10+ years, your gonna have to call it something lol. Today i start the NoFap wave, ive tried it before but theres always that relapse. But this time, with you guys helping me, i just might do it and ill be glad to help and talk to anyone else who needs motivation. Thank you wish me luck.;)
     
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  2. RitzyPETE123

    RitzyPETE123 Fapstronaut

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    Hey man! Well done for seeing the crack in your life! Because now you see it you can focus on fixing it, which is far better than not fixing it at all right? I mean hey, you're only 25, not like you're going grey or anything! ;) Trust in what you are seeing the future as for yourself and work towards it. You can do it!​
     
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  3. Protagoras

    Protagoras Fapstronaut

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    Yes it is. Great intro and welcome.
     
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  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  5. Frizzy

    Frizzy Fapstronaut

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    My current strategy is just pure restraint for now, and excercise...
     
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    D . J . Fapstronaut