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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by jbizz49, May 26, 2015.

  1. May 26, 2015 #1
    jbizz49

    jbizz49 Fapstronaut

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    Hi all,

    New to the NoFap community here, thanks for all the support. Been a fapper for about 20 years since I was about 12. I'm not really happy with my life at age 33. Single, lonely, haven't had a relationship with a girl that lasted more than 2 weeks, and I'm worried this addiction might keep me from marriage, kids, and life success if I don't get it under control. I also feel I waste so much time looking at porn that could be put to so much greater use. I also feel like at times, I've masturbated so much, I'm depleting myself critical testosterone levels - could this be true?

    I've given up masturbation for periods as long as 1.5 - 2 weeks in the past, usually when starting a dating relationship, but then I cave when my partner and I stop interacting.

    Are there withdrawl symptoms? Specifically, when I've gone several days without masturbation in the past, there is a pinching sensation on my urethra that comes and goes. It's not very painfull, just a sensation that goes unnoticed, and I hope it doesn't worsen should I commit to abstaining from PMO for what could be the longest run of my 'jerking off' career.

    Anyways, glad to be part of this community, and I welcome all of the kind words and support.

    God Bless America.

    Jaybo
     
    jbizz49, May 26, 2015
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  2. May 26, 2015 #2
    mv8652

    mv8652 Fapstronaut

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    "For a ship, the only thing worse than hitting a 40-foot swell head-on is hitting it any other way." You're the ship. Congrats on your decision to confront the porn beast.

    That feeling that you describe has never gotten worse in my experience(s). Nothing about NoFap is actually physically painful (again, my experience). The strongest sensations are the urges that you will get. They will test your dedication, but each one passes harmlessly by if you don't give in. They come and go, and they vary in intensity. They lessen in strength over time, and you gain experience in dealing with them.
     
    mv8652, May 26, 2015
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  3. May 26, 2015 #3
    Phibz

    Phibz Fapstronaut

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    Welcome, Jaybo. You've been given the opportunity to rid yourself of this habit. And you will find in time that this is about a lot more than that. Society wants us to believe that happiness is dependent on things like marriage, kids, success, etc...But you won't attract these things unless you're happy with you. Focus on your recover. Be vigilant. And be patient. This is a journey. Not a skip through the park. I feel your pain.
     
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  4. May 26, 2015 #4
    jbizz49

    jbizz49 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, Phibz. I guess what I really meant to say is that, in general, there is a void in my life that may be caused by my dependency to fap. For the most part, I've been pretty happy with my life at this point. I have great friends, a decent job, and couldn't ask for a better family. Fapping was just something I did because it slowly became something to do to pass the time.

    I think what I really need to do is start out small, perhaps 30-60-90, and try to identify any positive changes that enter my life as a result from such an abstinence, and take it from there.

    I know I can do this, but I've only just begun.

    Thank you, Phibz & mv8652
     
    jbizz49, May 26, 2015
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