Forget about classic no PMO streak. Join me on this STRICT plan for long term success

Hi M.D., thanks for posting. Reading posts and replying are part of my recovery, so thanks. I agree no one should quit without a plan. Not to be trite, but what is that saying? Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am 5 months PMO free. My plan is simple: Get educated, use tools, learn to love withdrawals. If you care to follow a thread I created, you can do so here:

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

The main thing is getting porn out of your brain. PMO is just a symptom of porn addiction. We use porn to trigger a dopamine reward in our brains. It's all just science, but once I learned it, I was a lot better off. You have to quit porn. You cannot just put it in a box and put it up on the shelf and tell yourself you won't use. If you keep it in your life, you will use it, so it has to go.

Good luck on your journey.

 

I'm with you, M.D. No fantasizing or dwelling on sexual thoughts is the ideal way to go, and what I have been doing for the past few weeks. I'm already noticing that I'm having an easier time with not objectifying women (as much!). With time, I hope that I'll see them all as people finally, and not objects for my fantasy.

I consider this ultra-hard mode. Glad to see someone else in trudging that path with me!

 

Sorry I'm a little confused. I agree with William, that those who fail to plan, plan to fail. I also agree that porn has to go, completely and for good (and for SO many reasons!)

I also believe in the following much studied, tried and tested sequence of lasting change (as described in James O Prochaskas brilliant book 'Changing for Good')

1.Pre contemplation (a pre-contemplator being somebody who hasn't even considered change etc)

2. Contemplation

3. Preperation (planning!)

4. Action (actually stopping the unwanted behaviour)

5. Maintenance (staying stopped)

6. Termination - (addiction is terminated- 'recovered' not 'in recovery'- but must follow an appropriate maintenance period)

To me the tracker is part of my 'maintenance' and after the 90 day reboot I will review where I am at. I may or may not M&O but right now all I am concentrating on is rebooting my brain and disassociating from porn completely as I have NO INTENTION whatsoever of EVER using it again (and I have followed the above process with alcohol and nicotine and touched neither- not once- for nearly six years and I never will again (and I am 100% confident of that!!)

But like I said the tracker/reboot is helping with my re-boot and I will review my situation at the end of that period which could either be me deciding I need to extend my 'maintenance' period OR deciding I have terminated my unwanted behaviour (to be honest I will probably extend the maintenance period as I don't want to get too 'cocky' if you pardon the expression!)

I hope I haven't misunderstood or confused your post and I wish you all the best with this as you do mention a plan etc?

 

Well done, William, at being five months free!

Regards the OP, I agree that going hardcore no-mercy is the only way to succeed.

 

All the best with it. I've found on here that its a combination of developing your own personal plan/philosophy WHILST learning from others etc. Taking here, giving there. Helping and being helped etc.

I like these ideas...

“If I am walking with two other men, each of them will serve as my teacher. I will pick out the good points of the one and imitate them, and the bad points of the other and correct them in myself.”---Confucious

"We are all like the fingers of a hand; none of us are the same but we are united."---Noble Warrior That Gives Life.

All the best with your plan mate. Keep us posted