Flatline - When to start dating?

I think you should start spending time around women slowly, not dating, get involved in things where women are.
As far as I understand women, they choose the partner. If a girl likes you, it will naturally escalate.
Just put the energy in things that will make you feel great about yourself.
As you start talking to them, you won't care getting with them in bed, you might get in an awkward position where she wants it but you won't because you will love feeling whole.

 

Great question. It's one I've been wrestling with for years too.

I have dated a lot while in flatlines and I've had some very clunky experiences in the bedroom because of it: taking ages to get hard, PE, and having sex minutes after having sex when I didn't really feel like it. I just did it because I didn't want to lose/upset the girl. And I was just frustrated with having no libido; I was trying to force it back into life (didn't work, of course).

I find that being around women really speeds things up. So being at the office, bars, gyms, etc. will help you reboot. Especially when you're talking with women. But you may find that being so relaxed and not trying to have sex, you might be quite charming and find yourself in a bedroom with a hot lady!

If I was to try again, I'd avoid sex until I was having strong erections just flirting/thinking about a woman that's flirting back with me. If women in the flesh excite you as much as a brick wall, don't waste your time with dating; UNLESS you are willing to date women without sexual intercourse for a while. Which I understand might not be easy to arrange with a woman you just met.

I took erections pills while on flatlines and I went into a DEEP flatline after having sex 2-3 times a night. It was stupid but I did it as the girl wanted sex and I was so sick of avoiding dating and dealing with NOFAP that I just tried to have sex and hope that it would heal me but I think I had sex too many times too early. And it led to some horrible nights where I was struggling to get hard in front of women that I really liked. So awkward. I have yet to see a good way to deal with this: some women may be chasing you bad but you're going to need to keep turning them away if you don't think you're up to it.

I had sex a few weeks ago and had severe PE every time we tried and I went into a deep flatine afterwards. The girl keeps calling me late at night every few days but I ignore it as it's not worth having poor sex and then going into flatline.

As for loneliness, use a digital calender and CRAM it with activities. Make yourself so dam busy with things to do that you don't have time to think about loneliness. It works! And it will help speed up your reboot too.

Good luck!

 

My opinion: dating is fine. But perhaps take it easy on sexual stuff. If you indulge in sex then you may not end up getting a full recovery

just sitting with a woman and talking with her or even hugging and getting to know each other should never be a problem for anyone, meaning not unhealthy

 

Get in a relationship but no sex. I am pretty sure everything will be just fine.

 

I plan to give it at least a year. I am at 5 months at the moment. The flatline symptoms come and go. I don't feel fair to the woman to try and get into a serious relationship while I am deep in the flatline.

 

No relapses in 156 days in a row
By the Grace of God

 

I was in a flatlines for years as I kept going back to porn every few months or MO'd 3 times in one night or edged. 7 months is great and I bet you healed a lot. And what does healing mean, it differs for everyone. You'll get there! I think everyone tends to heal after reaching that "oh my.... my life truly sucks now!" I think we need to hit the point to get the streak we need to recover.