Flatline during reboot = marital issues...

time2flyhome · Apr 22, 2018

I've struggled with M for a long time. Not so much P, but definitely M. I decided I needed to stop, especially since my wife and I are thinking about having kids sometime in the near future. I really don't want to be a dad with a terrible weakness. I want to be a good, healthy, confident husband and (someday) father.

So it's been 41 days of no M. It has certainly had challenges, but I'm proud of myself for abstaining for such a long time. That's probably been the longest period of time without M in years.

My wife and I have had sex three times during the reboot. I know some of you don't support that, but I felt like as long as I wasn't doing M I was fine. The first two times we had sex it was great. Felt very strong. Stronger than I had in a long time. I thought, "Wow, this is working!"

The last time was pathetic. Complete flatline. Not even a bit of horniness. I felt really embarrassed. I read that the flatline is a normal part of the reboot. How long is this going to last? It varies from person to person, but is there an average time?

Also, I feel a bit frustrated that the very reason I wanted to stop M in the first place (i.e. having kids) is now preventing me from achieving that very goal. Feeling confused...Maybe I need another reboot COMPLETELY COLD TURKEY I.E. NO SEX OR P OR M. Not sure if y'all have any insight, but I'd appreciate your comments.

Abird · Apr 23, 2018

What is it that you can get with M but not with Sex?

immadothis · Apr 24, 2018

time2flyhome said: ↑

I've struggled with M for a long time. Not so much P, but definitely M. I decided I needed to stop, especially since my wife and I are thinking about having kids sometime in the near future. I really don't want to be a dad with a terrible weakness. I want to be a good, healthy, confident husband and (someday) father.

So it's been 41 days of no M. It has certainly had challenges, but I'm proud of myself for abstaining for such a long time. That's probably been the longest period of time without M in years.

My wife and I have had sex three times during the reboot. I know some of you don't support that, but I felt like as long as I wasn't doing M I was fine. The first two times we had sex it was great. Felt very strong. Stronger than I had in a long time. I thought, "Wow, this is working!"

The last time was pathetic. Complete flatline. Not even a bit of horniness. I felt really embarrassed. I read that the flatline is a normal part of the reboot. How long is this going to last? It varies from person to person, but is there an average time?

Also, I feel a bit frustrated that the very reason I wanted to stop M in the first place (i.e. having kids) is now preventing me from achieving that very goal. Feeling confused...Maybe I need another reboot COMPLETELY COLD TURKEY I.E. NO SEX OR P OR M. Not sure if y'all have any insight, but I'd appreciate your comments.
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if you gonna fap, you still will be on flatline, but you will ruin it and trust me, your back at day 0, so let your car heal in the garage bro, and try to avoid porn too

JustinX · Apr 27, 2018

time2flyhome said: ↑

I've struggled with M for a long time. Not so much P, but definitely M. I decided I needed to stop, especially since my wife and I are thinking about having kids sometime in the near future. I really don't want to be a dad with a terrible weakness. I want to be a good, healthy, confident husband and (someday) father.

So it's been 41 days of no M. It has certainly had challenges, but I'm proud of myself for abstaining for such a long time. That's probably been the longest period of time without M in years.

My wife and I have had sex three times during the reboot. I know some of you don't support that, but I felt like as long as I wasn't doing M I was fine. The first two times we had sex it was great. Felt very strong. Stronger than I had in a long time. I thought, "Wow, this is working!"

The last time was pathetic. Complete flatline. Not even a bit of horniness. I felt really embarrassed. I read that the flatline is a normal part of the reboot. How long is this going to last? It varies from person to person, but is there an average time?

Also, I feel a bit frustrated that the very reason I wanted to stop M in the first place (i.e. having kids) is now preventing me from achieving that very goal. Feeling confused...Maybe I need another reboot COMPLETELY COLD TURKEY I.E. NO SEX OR P OR M. Not sure if y'all have any insight, but I'd appreciate your comments.
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In my opinion, flatline is a good thing because I believe in flatline major healing and changes in brain happens. Dont worry once flatline is over you can fuck your wife even better than any time before. I talking from experience. My flatline year ago when I was doing first serious reboot lasted about 3-4 weeks but after it major improvements happened. So you really dont want to interrupt, just keeps strong and go through with it. It will be worth it.

BostonGuy · May 4, 2018

I've been married for almost 10 years. Heavy porn user while we dated and sex life slowed. Slow sex life in marriage and porn killed it. She found a lover and we almost split up. Now I know she needed someone else. We got through the rough patch and also want kids. I cut off porn 57 days ago and I haven't M'd. We've had sex a few times but I'm having performance issues.

I please her orally and I O. I begin to enter her and immediately O. It's embarrassing for me and a let down for her. She is asking me why I can't hold off for more than 5 seconds. I have no answers. Last week I told her I stopped watching porn but she doesn't know how addicted I as to porn and other partners.

Now I'm able to maintain an erection while wearing a ring so I have to be proud of that. But how can I last longer? Is it ever ok to M gently so I can work on being able to last longer? I know that I am able to not turn M into a regular thing. It's more so I can last longer when we eventually become intimate.

Thanks for any advice.

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