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Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by clive_15, Sep 4, 2017.

  1. clive_15

    clive_15 New Fapstronaut

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    First time posting, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. From month 6 he knew how I felt about porn and that it made me feel pressured and uncomfortable. I know he's felt terrible about it since than, and a couple months ago joined NoFap to help him. At first he was going great and I was feeling better, he had a group of people he could talk to and help him when he was struggling. He made it just under a month, had two days without sex of any kind, and was doing it again. I was supportive and trying to hide how hurt i was, I was saying all the right things and though i was being supportive.
    The next time was 10 days later and didn't tell me till i ask him how he was going with everything. I was hurt that he didn't tell me even though he promised me, and i got mad. After that it was happening every 5 days or less, that he wasn't getting sex. He's said it's because his lonely, but I'm usually at work or uni. I'm feeling guilty, hurt, mad, and guilty that I'm mad about it.
    I know he's trying but lately it seems that as soon as one day with out sex goes he onto porn again. He always says sorry and tells me how bad he feels, and that he doesn't want to talk about it, but lately I've lost the effort to try and I'm so tried of being hurt by this and feeling as if it's my fault.

    Thanks for reading my thread,
    sorry if it's a bit long..
     
  2. You've come to the right place. The SO here can most definitely relate to what your going through. Do not apologize for how you feel. They are your feelings and no one else's and they matter. They are valid. He has an addiction which is why he continues even if he doesn't want to. There are many PA on here that can better explain that part to you. Also look around this site and read as much as you can. You will learn a lot about this and what is going on with your relationship.

    Hang in there!
     
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