Finding motivation to quit completely

you need a higher purpose, let me give you an example, 2 guys are preparing for an entrance exam for an engineering university, one is trying to get in so that he can be an engineer and provide for his family, the other one wants to become an engineer so that he can brag about it in his small town, wich one do you think is going to try harder and succeed, same thing for this addiction

 

Flip the question, and ask yourself why would you want to be a porn addict for you whole life?

 

It takes time I think to harden your resolve. As you go about making choices to live a healthier life, you will find yourself reflexively reaching for, moving towards, thinking about, desiring for, or some other mood, action, or experience that relates to porn. There is a lot of different little(or big) phenomenons that are tied up in your mind and body connected to it. Every time one comes up is a chance to challenge the part of you that is still attached to porn. If you catch yourself in the moment, you can start to figure out how to redirect that part of yourself to the healthier life.

I am still on that journey myself, but at this point I feel like I am getting better at catching those tiny moments, and doing what I can to change my mind, my hopes, and my desires. It can't be a pious pie in the sky kind of thing either. I used to rattle off a lot of self righteous words here or rarely IRL, but over time I've realized that you can't say things because you think it sounds right. It has to be from where you are really at, or you're just projecting an illusion. The thing about illusions, is that the more you are in one, the easier it is to stumble.

You can definitely prolong the journey though; never be half hearted. If you feel you aren't in it for the long haul, you need to put your whole focus on why not, and what you can do to shift that. Easier said than done, but I think it's the only true way forward.

 

Think about how much and how deeply it fucked up your life.