Thanks to this forum!! I can't thank all of you enough. I've gotten so much clarity and relief from your help. I told my boyfriend that I need him to be completely honest with me which he took well. Things that were slightly disconcerting were: -How do we put this boundary into place without it feeling like he has to report to me first thing every time we see each other? Is checking in once a week enough? -I want to be realistic, supportive and open-minded, but he alluded that his goal is not to never watch porn again, his goal is to be more ok with/accept his porn usage and only use it 3-4 times a week on certain days. My ideal relationship is that he attempts to never watch porn again so it doesn't get in the way of our sex life, but maybe things can evolve from here in a different way? Or am I deluding myself? He told me the longest break he's taken is 2 weeks. Where do we go from here?