Fetishes?

What has been happening is called escalation, your mind trying to get then next most "exciting" thing. This will start to calm down as you stay away from PMO.

 

It depends. Were you into any of those things naturally before you started watching porn? If not, then those kinks will probably dissipate over time. It's hard to say if they ever FULLY go away since once you wire a pathway in the brain it always has the potential for rewiring, but I am confident that your kinks can eventually become weak enough that they are insignificant to you.

 

My experience sounds very similar to yours. I start watching porn as a teenager and I'm now 33. If it makes you feel any better, there is hope! I realized I had a problem about 3 years ago and started down the path to quitting. Most of my extreme fetishes have went away over time, especially in the last year. Every once in a while they pop into my head, but they make me feel disgusted and I have no interest in them. There are still a couple I act on with my wife, but I do so in a healthy way and never with PMO.

 

I think there's a lot of value in that last sentence, because I see way too many guys here flagellating themselves for having harmless non-vanilla sexual kinks or desires, as if everything out of the ordinary is a symptom of porn addiction. Many of them are married and their spouses do not even know of their fetishes (even ones as innocuous as a foot fetish) and it blows my mind that they can live that way and keep such important things from their partners.

 

I have very strong feet and anal fetish, (women of course) I have this already from my childhood. Doesn't have anything to do with porn. It makes my nofap journey tremendously difficult. And it will not go away even after long streak. Regarding you, depends on where the fetish is coming from.

 

Edging is one of the worst things that you can do, so don't do it again. It's good that you are going hard mode. Your fetishes will start to disappear, but it takes time.

 

If you gained these fetishes after getting to porn then yes they will go.
If it is gained since a very old age that you don't even remember how it started, then it might but not surely.

 

Excellent, well done, and keep going! It's good to see your determination.

That's normal with hard mode. Be patient and push through it, because it truly does get better.

I'm the kind of person who doesn't get upset with things, but in my earlier days of NoFap, I got seriously upset. Fortunately, I realised that it was just me, and so I took care not to take it out on other people.

That's really too young for you. My guess is that two things are happening.

One: You are only 13 days into your hard mode, so the porn effects are still strong in your mind — you still see young girls (because an 18 year old is really still a girl) as something to fap off to. This effect will start to disappear after time, so you can look forward to that as the weeks go by.

Two: These days, young girls more and more are dressing as adults instead of as girls, and this can fool your brain into thinking of them as adults instead of as girls.

The two points combined are powerful. So, don't be upset with yourself; instead, do this…

When you see those young girls, just STOP LOOKING. That's all. Stop looking at young girls. There is absolutely no need to look. When you happen to see one, look away.

If you have to look at her (say she's a shop assistant that you have to talk to), look at her eyes and the ceiling. Notice what's above you. Anything below her eyes is none of your business.

When I realised that porn was making me start to notice younger women (I'm almost 60), I knew immediately that this was a bad direction. To solve this, I don't look at younger women. I look at women my age and older. Also, when I look at them, I don't look at them as sex objects; I look at them as people. Eyes first, face second, eyes last. Of course, I notice the body — I am a straight man — but I notice it as a secondary thing, and I don't concentrate on it. I pass it out of my mind as soon as I've noticed it.

You're doing well. Keep it up.

 

It's normal. The 18 year old law isn't based on any objective science - it's just an arbitrary cutoff point. The simple fact is that as a straight male you are attracted to the female body, and some 16/17 year olds are as developed physically as other 19/20 year olds. Emotionally and mentally, they are not mature enough for you to consider anything with, but it is normal to find them physically attractive because they LOOK like fully sexually developed women. Simply don't act on your attraction or entertain the idea of dating one or being sexual with one. Keep in mind that throughout the majority of human history, it's been NORMAL for older men to marry and copulate with teenage women. I'm not saying it's right - only that it's natural to be attracted to girls who look like WOMEN. You shouldn't beat yourself up for it, but you do have to practice restraint as you would with any other sexual desire you know is wrong.