Fell again

PhilippB · Oct 7, 2023

Hello fellow brothers,

just as an update for you, I fell again yesterday/today night for sexchat, cam and porn.

I think the trigger was that one beer that i drank before.

It‘s like a pattern everytime I drink I get even more urges.

As a question for you:
Do you think I should let my mother lock my laptop into the safe again or should I try to fight against the urges and try learning to use my laptop normal again?

Thanks fellas and keep on going.

I will never give up because I can‘t accept myself being this person that I am right now.

God bless you.

Stitch 626 · Oct 7, 2023

Hello, my friend!

We all have triggers and alerts that we should avoid in our journey, and it's really important to identify them.
If drinking alcohol is helping you to fail and be the person you don't want to be, it means you should stay away from it. Keep finding patterns and fighting against them. It will make the journey easier and spare you from moments of struggle.

Answering your question:
Recently I asked my girlfriend to help me and block both my phone and laptop. In the end, I found another way to fail. We always do if we want to.

So the key is not blocking it, using passwords, but (really) willing to do the opposite. Change your mind, your way to think, especially to train your mind to be able to use your computer with responsibility. Otherwise, you'll just be the same person with less access to pornography.

Train your brain! Train it like a muscle that gets a bit stronger everytime you stand for your goals and say "NO!"
Everytime you do it, it will be easier to resist, just like a dumbbell gets lighter.

Hope you can achieve your objectives, my friend!
God bless you!

Best regards,
Stitch!

HealingBodyandMind · Oct 8, 2023

well, if your mother locks the laptop in the safe, then yes, you will be separated physically from porn.. but will you still be craving it in your mind? If you are still craving porn and are still doing masturbation, then as soon as you have internet access again you will still look at porn

I got rid of my laptop about 9 years ago for like 4 months.. I didn't watch any porn, but I still did MO. And as soon as I had internet access again, I ended up watching porn..

so yes, if your mom puts the laptop in the safe and if you also don't do masturbation, then this could be a good plan to get a good streak going

PhilippB · Oct 8, 2023

Stitch 626 said: ↑

Hello, my friend!

We all have triggers and alerts that we should avoid in our journey, and it's really important to identify them.
If drinking alcohol is helping you to fail and be the person you don't want to be, it means you should stay away from it. Keep finding patterns and fighting against them. It will make the journey easier and spare you from moments of struggle.

Answering your question:
Recently I asked my girlfriend to help me and block both my phone and laptop. In the end, I found another way to fail. We always do if we want to.

So the key is not blocking it, using passwords, but (really) willing to do the opposite. Change your mind, your way to think, especially to train your mind to be able to use your computer with responsibility. Otherwise, you'll just be the same person with less access to pornography.

Train your brain! Train it like a muscle that gets a bit stronger everytime you stand for your goals and say "NO!"
Everytime you do it, it will be easier to resist, just like a dumbbell gets lighter.

Hope you can achieve your objectives, my friend!
God bless you!

Best regards,
Stitch!
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Stitch 626 said: ↑

Hello, my friend!

We all have triggers and alerts that we should avoid in our journey, and it's really important to identify them.
If drinking alcohol is helping you to fail and be the person you don't want to be, it means you should stay away from it. Keep finding patterns and fighting against them. It will make the journey easier and spare you from moments of struggle.

Answering your question:
Recently I asked my girlfriend to help me and block both my phone and laptop. In the end, I found another way to fail. We always do if we want to.

So the key is not blocking it, using passwords, but (really) willing to do the opposite. Change your mind, your way to think, especially to train your mind to be able to use your computer with responsibility. Otherwise, you'll just be the same person with less access to pornography.

Train your brain! Train it like a muscle that gets a bit stronger everytime you stand for your goals and say "NO!"
Everytime you do it, it will be easier to resist, just like a dumbbell gets lighter.

Hope you can achieve your objectives, my friend!
God bless you!

Best regards,
Stitch!
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Hello buddy,

that‘s a great advice.

And its really like that, when my laptop is locked away and then I get it for doing some serious tasks then I am really excited for sexchats and porn.

So I really have to learn living normal with the accessability pf internet porn and so on.

I mean how can I keep on living without access to my laptop?

Training the brain is indeeed very important.
My question is, how do I train the brain properly? I know that meditation is very useful and also excercise but ther is surely more to that?

Thanks bro and have a great day!

PhilippB · Oct 8, 2023

500 said: ↑

well, if your mother locks the laptop in the safe, then yes, you will be separated physically from porn.. but will you still be craving it in your mind? If you are still craving porn and are still doing masturbation, then as soon as you have internet access again you will still look at porn

I got rid of my laptop about 9 years ago for like 4 months.. I didn't watch any porn, but I still did MO. And as soon as I had internet access again, I ended up watching porn..

so yes, if your mom puts the laptop in the safe and if you also don't do masturbation, then this could be a good plan to get a good streak going
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Hello there,

yes that‘s true that I could get a good streak.

But I think on the long run it‘s more useful that I keep my laptop and learn to handle the accesability of porn and not gibing in to it, even when i might fail sometimes.

Have a great day bud!

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