"feeling" of Watching Porn

I am an amateur but because no one has replied yet I will give it a shot. To respond on your first question, I think your brain basically goes on autopilot at this point. Your brain basically wants two things: (1) to avoid pain and (2) to repeat pleasurable things. In the case of PMO, the pleasure is instant and the pain comes later. Said another way, it is painful to not PMO when you are thinking about it because it costs you (1) concentration, (2) energy, (3) discipline. You are essentially fighting against your own brain, and it takes energy to win. That's why your brain thinks "Hey, I can either think of inspiring reasons to not PMO, draining my energy or I can indulge in PMO and feel pleasurable and be done with it". You know what happensa this point. Install K9 Protector software and give the password to your girlfriend or your mother, and destroy your own copy of the password. Don't take your laptop to bed, exercise, eat healthy and start having conversations with real women will certainly help.

Now the second question is called the "Honeymoon effect", it is the same thing that happens when you fall in love or you start a business. The first couple of months, it's all fun and games, but after a while, your lover gets kinda boring and it becomes a rut. The same with business, you are just not that excited about an idea anymore. Now, in the case of porn the effect appears must quicker, after a few days you say. This is because your brain is actually resisting this change. Your brain gains pleasure by watching PMO, do not forget that. Even if you have a 100 reasons to know why you SHOULD quit, your brain will still think "But it is pleasurable, so I will do everything in my power to keep PMO in my life". So the demotivation is actually a way of your brain to push you toward PMO. It is a trick. When you quit cigarettes, the exact same thing happens. You quit a week, then you think "Well if I can quit a week, i am not really addicted in the first place, so one cigarette can't hurt", and then you're hooked again. That is why it is so important to keep a journal, get an accountability partner and make this a priority in your life. It will not work when you do not accept that this is a serious addiction and you will feel crap for many days to come, but it is worth the pain in the end.

I hope this helps.

 

I can relate to this. Recently I have been getting feelings that watching porn might be a good idea. I have no idea why, and I know this sort of thinking is unjustified.

My take on it is that these feelings are a type of urge. Therefore to proceed in your reboot you must crush or outlast these feelings, because if you're not careful they will lead to stronger urges to PMO, and you may have witnessed.

My answers:

This is a typical characteristic of PMO urges. It is normal not to be able to think of anything else. The challenge comes in forcing yourself out of this dangerous territory and distracting yourself with other things. Be aware that nothing is "forcing" you to fantasize. It is up to you whether you want to indulge in fantasizing, or watching porn, or masturbating, or whatever it may be. You need to act based on past experience. You know that the pleasure you get from PMO is short lived, and often makes you feel terrible afterwards. You know that indulging in self pleasure will not fulfill your long term goals. Therefore you have to use that knowledge from past experience to make the right decision.

This is a result of hormonal changes. For me, I naturally feel guilty after an orgasm. Therefore the first few days after are easy to abstain. But after a few days you'll start to be hit with urges again, and if you haven't already felt the positive aspects of abstaining, it can be very disenfranchising and may seem difficult to carry on. Just know that it is worth it!

The way you feel throughout your reboot depends on many envrinmental factors, but your mood and feelings all stem from hormonal activity in the brain.

Keep going man!

 

I have faced similar situations, and following are my suggestions:

When urges come, do not fight them, just observe them. And whatever is happening to you let it happen, but do not touch it.

You will realize that urges can't make you do anything against your will.

It won't be simple or easy. but if u were able to control it for a week, u will get experience in this trick and 90 days will pass effortlessly.

 

Based on what I've experienced, getting through the first five days is the toughest. I relapsed a number of times around day five, either on day 4 or couple days after it and on day 5 as well. Once you are well past the five day hump it should get easier.

 

Read articles on yourbrainonporn.com to understand what's happening in your brain. I think what you described, we all deal with. The good news is: the longer you go without giving into your addiction, the easier it generally gets. The less those thoughts and desires will intrude on you, the less you'll be tempted, and the easier it'll be to resist and make the good/healthy/right choice. Keep going!

 

The demon of Lust is a very strong demon. She is Satans strongest ally, This battle is not easy but well worth the fight!

 

We think the feeling of watching porn is great, but it is nothing in comparison to the feeling of love. When a man and women unite sexually while deeply in love it is un-comparable to the feelings had while watching porn and fapping. Love > lust