Feeling lonely

I will pray for you and ask for your prayers as well. You know, if the idea of the Ignatius Examen appeals to you, there is no reason you can't start that right now. This website will show you how: https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-examen/

Just to understand better, when you say you should love yourself the way you are now, do you see the need for self-love as being in conflict with your desire to work on your flaws? I have lots of growing to do in this area myself, but it seems to me I am being my most loving toward myself when I make myself do those things that I know I ought. For example, eating a healthy meal instead of junk food or going out for some exercise may not be what I feel like doing, but I know I will feel better about myself for having done so. Self-discipline is a powerful declaration of your own dignity, moving beyond words to action. You are saying -- with action -- that you are worth taking care of. And indeed you are.

Well, I would be a hypocrite if I wrote the above and didn't go out for the run I've been promising myself I would do today, so bye for now.

 

My brother, I understand you perfectly. Listen, that desire and yearning to have sex is called hormones. Believe it or not, I still struggle with them. But that constant begging of your brain for sex will go away, I promise. Obviously not completely, but at least you won't be thinking about sex at every second of the day. It's tough, I know, but you need to use your powerful brain for good, not bad. If I was tempted to the point of a women pushing me onto her bed, I would probably not resist, so let's make this a bit easier- how about you never even let it get to that point? It sounds harder than it really is. You know how to steer clear from it, so do it. As for wanting a love of your life, there's two things.
1. Love brings more pain than happiness, trust me. If you're willing to suffer to get that love, then go for it, but remember that we only need the love of Christ.
2. You're still young, TRUST ME. Since you are in puberty, your brain CANNOT function as it should, so you can't make proper decisions all the time. Just be patient, and God will reward you.

For me, I fell in love, like legit never had a stronger love, with a girl. We brake up and she never said that she loved me back. Two years later I'm happy because I'm single and God gave me the calling to the priesthood. Well, she comes back and says that she never actually stopped loving me. I had to say goodbye. That was the hardest thing I ever did(that was this year, btw). It was worth it nonetheless, because we only need God's love. We're here for you dude, stay strong. God bless you

 

Bro I get what your saying on the yearning for gf. Bro I literally feel that every now and then and I get reminded of it when watching romance shows and it makes me want to experience love. I think love is really strong and I always thought getting a gf would help me recover from my porn habit because I wouldn’t want to hurt that person’s feelings and it would not be right because then I would have someone I really love so I not only have to say it but actually show it. I’ve had my fair share of rejections and I kinda stopped trying to ask girls out at the moment. I had one back 3 years ago and I’m sad because I think I messed it up. I had some other girl like 1.5 years ago ask me out and we went out exclusively but then it turned out she just wanted to be friends. It really messed me up and at the time I would say I was in my prime in regard to mental health but ever since then I kinda been going down hill. For one I want to work on my health first such as going to gym and then maybe I’ll get confidence to ask girls out again but I’ve always been a shy person so it gets hard for me to want to start conversation. But yeah I really just want real intimacy with a person. I had someone I was texting a while ago but she also ended up ghosting me and it’s not even that I did anything wrong it just seems to be I just get bad luck or people who aren’t serious about relationships. At times I just want to wait and see if anyone ask me out or is interested in me but I feel I’ve played that game for a while now to know it’s not reasonable to expect the people you find attractive to ask you out, but yeah I’ve been yearning for a relationship for quite a while if anything taking that step would lead to greater things such as marriage which is a great sacrament and later having kids which is something God wants.