Feeling feminine?!

Not a therapist here, but I remember that I had something like that at some point and me thinking that if I was a woman I would get a lot of sex, etc.

 

I don't think that way anymore, it was more in my teens. I guess I was going with the stereotype-like idea that women can have sex as much as they want, because single men and a lot of married men won't turn down an opportunity to have sex. So I was thinking that if I would been born a women, I would screw whatever walks, toys included. At the same time I was young and virgin, so I felt like it was bad luck to be a man, and I would have been better off coming to this world as a nymphomaniac lady.

But, that didn't cause me to consider a medical procedure or anything like that. I was just thinking that sexually it was better to be a female. That WAS ONLY MY PERCEPTION. When I got sex with my GF/wive, that way of thinking disappeared.
dunno if that makes more sense?

 

Did u check ur testosterone levels ?
I guess u need to.

 

Yes, I didn't go that far into my thinking at the time. I didn't have a real drive to change and no physicological footprint to it either.

In all cases, keep in mind that watching porn screws your normal "tastes".

 

Yes, i don't think that u really want to be a female, trans people feel that strongly at their childhood.
I said that because i want u to stop asking people questions every single day to fuck your mind more, that's a real obsession over here.
For me, i like to move quickly and get things done, get a professional help, because nofap ain't going help you with this problem.
Sorry if this reply upset you, but what i see from my perspective you're destroying yourself more.

 

You subconicously believe that women feel more pleasure, are prettier and that that makes them better. [which isn't true]

You may feel that girls are the good ones and guys the bad ones.
But the grass is always more green on the other side, either from a male or a female point of view, because we only look at the downsides here and the benefits there.

One thing for example is that being an unattractive male is socially more okay than being an unattractive girl. Because guys can be strong and smart or just successful. My point is if girls lack beauty that has the strongest drawback on their superficial social life. Which doesn't mean that they can't become happy or be happy but just that they have it harder.

They same goes for men who are very small in a country where being tall is the norm. For example an 160 cms guy in sweden where above 6 ft is the norm and the big ones are about 6 ft 3-4 inches and not only few.
Or also being very scrawny can be detrimental for a guy.


So ask yourself, would you rather be an unattractive girl or an unattractive man.

Do you desire certain attributes a girl has, their social standpoint, their bodies? What is it that you feel?

If the choice is man, then you have a fetish/delusions about being a girl.

if the honest answer is girl, then you potentially may be transsexual/transgender.


Or maybe you are just disappointed in yourself (subconciously) and feel that if you can't be the man you want to be, then you should become female. Which isn't to say females are better or worse, but they don't need things/need to exhibit things men does, as muscular strenght for example, being dominant etc....

I just think it's a fetish, honestly, some have a foot fetish, some a female, transsexual fetish and you have this one.

It is called "autogynephilia". Google it up. You want to become what you love, girls. Because then you could love yourself, then you could justify any sexual behaviour because - girls.

You are just not used to being manly anymore, that doesn't mean you don't have it in you. It's just gotten rusty and has been left in a lonely corner for quite some time.

You just need to use it again, get used to it again and you will feel like yourself again.

And honestly even if you are transsexual, transitioning etc.. can potentially destroy your life. I don't think it's worth it.

And hey, there's always a next time, after reincarnation, at least, that's what I believe.

 

Of course transitioning isn't an option in my eyes. Only few people become happy with/after it and it is something you can never change again. If you wanted to change it again after transitioning, it would be impossible, irreparable.

you need to change yourself. Not just what you say or do but your very core. You need to change your THINKING.

You must force yourself to think the right thoughts and you must force youself to stop the wrong thoughts. Thoughts determine our inner world. If you change your way of thinking, you change yourself. Other than that, autogynephilia is a fetish, with time, it will go away.

 

Imagine being the only person in the world. Or alternatively, you're stuck by yourself on a desert island. What's your "gender" in this situation?

Maybe you're thinking too much about gender in relation to other people. Who are you, by yourself?

 

Dude, relax. It's not that a big deal. If earlier, you had normal masculine feelings, then you can always get back to it, no matter how you feel now. I think excessive pornography , masturbation has altered the normal circuits of your brain. First, get out of this addiction. Stop watching shit and jerking to it, right now. You seriously need a rewire. Take the 90 days, or better 180 days 'nofap' challenge. Don't do it, no matter how bad you want. And, stop thinking on these lines. The more you think about these things, the more you are reinforcing these thoughts. I see, you just relapsed again from your counter. Stop it at any cost. Don't relapse. Get out of PMO and you will see the change. But be patient, few months of abstinence should suffice. Go join a gym. Work on improving your life. Get meaningful goals in your life. Meet new people. Most importantly, be patient. Change will surely happen. Best wishes.

 

So watching Diehard boosts your manliness in your opinion?

 

Short said - yes. Will it be easy? Probably not.

The first step to fixing yourself is to accept yourself, no matter what.

Straight, gay, female, male, hermaphrodite or whatelse, It doesn't matter you are you.

When you accept yourself you take the wind away from the fear of being something you don't want to be.


Once you accepted yourself you can go over to transform yourself and become the person you want to be.


you have to change actively. Everyday. Imagine in your head what you look like, how you behave, what you do, imagine your own power and strenght, imagine your wits, feel and imagine the energy that is you.

And start thinking the things that will do good. Every day after standing up tell yourself: I am a manly man. I am confident. I get stuff done. I am secure in my sexuality.

Overwhelm the artifical porn thoughts and feelings with your own thoughts and will power.

It will take some time and effort but if you truly want it, and truly mean it, getting over it will pose no problem at all.