Feeling better than ever.

Hey man good stuff coming out here and posting your problem, it's a great step to beating this addiction! I relate to the life being on a loop feeling, we constantly subject ourselves to the same disappointing activity every day without fail and so we have the same crappy mood and number of missed opportunities all the time. Good move deleting the collection, makes it more work to relapse now. Keep updating your progress and feelings on the forum, since it can be very helpful. I hope you also find some new fun things to do with the extra time you have now. Good luck again this year brotha!

 

@Joforthebetter

A relapse is never a fun experience, you feel both disappointed and weak as a person to not be able to stay away, I know that feeling.

Somethings I will tell myself when I get very strong urges and cravings to masturbate is:

- I don't need this and this is just my brain playing tricks on me to be able to give it what it wants. Because my brain needs me, because it's not able to get an orgasm by itself. It uses me as a tool to achieve it's goal for satisfaction!

- How can I jerk off to porn when some of the performers I watch (especially the women) might do these videos against their own will or do them to be able to survive? How can I watch it, but at the same time promote it. It makes me feel both dirty and disrespectful. How can I accept to make myself satisfied, while some of the performers pay the ultimate price!

- Why should I do this when I know it will only give negative impacts on me. It will drain me of energy and give me hard time to enjoy other things in life that I really enjoy. It could also increase my thoughts of seeing women as objects instead of seeing them a humans.

If you think thoughts like these, you might have a bigger chance of not relapsing in the future. Determination and self control is 2 very important things to master while trying to brake free from an addiction.

Stay strong and stay determined, you got this!

 

You welcome, always happy to share my thoughts on things and try to help others to a better life without PMO!

I'm happy that you have made the gym a habit and want to be more outside and connect with the society!

You are on the right path, my brother!

 

The most important part of what you said is "taking action." This resonates well with me as it's the most crucial piece to getting sober and staying stopped.

Taking action and remaining consistent has certainly been the biggest game changer for me this go around. Fundamentally, the same applies to whatever the task at hand is...porn addiction, escort addiction, over eating, lack of exercise, etc.

Wishing you the best!

 

Great to hear brother! Keep it up!

 

Man @Operation Change is so spot on with the way our brains SHOULD be thinking. It's unnerving sometimes to know that we have reprogrammed our brains so far out of reality that we can't even have sympathy for people. What is even scarier is how we tend to view the world outside of our fantasies. That I think is something to strongly consider and reinforce as our thoughts anytime we think that we our thinking about relapsing.

Good luck to you guys, I know we can do it and truly see our minds get back to new beginnings and new everything (if that makes sense) once again.

 

It is also wonderful to know that TOGETHER we can reverse this lifestyle completely and forever.

 

@AgentLion007

Thank you for agreeing with me! It's very important to see things from from a realistic perspective as well. If people would start to think of porn in a more realistic way, I wouldn't think many people would have been that interested in it, because you never know that these people on your screen goes through behind the scenes. Your conscience maybe know deep inside that this is wrong to watch, but your addiction is stronger.

The brain will give you flashbacks of porngraphic material so you can get horny and start to masturbate. Your brain won't feel satisfied until you have orgasmed because it's during orgasm it will release a high dose of dopamine.

In my opinion, the 2 worst things you can do for your brain is watching porn and orgasm. Every time you switch to a new porngraphic photo or video your brain will release dopamine, because your brain will get excited for every new naked chick you'll see. Naked chick = horny + erection, for most men out there. When you watch porn your brain will start to think it's mating season and it's goal is to get as many ejaculations as possible, and that will continue as long as you watch porn. If you watch between 3-5 different videos during one day, than your brain wants to mate with all those 3-5 women you watch because your brain is programed to reproduce and the only way to do that is by mating with them.