Faster reboot emotion is the key

Hi everyone,

I am going to write my personal story and why some people succeed in overcoming this addiction and particularly how people in emotional flatlines overcome it, what are the mistake we make...
This topic is directed to the people that are in long reboot, or simply new comer who want to reboot faster, I don't talk about strategy to overcome urges.

Personal story :
I am 24 years old, I have a lot of social anxiety and I have seen many different coaches to overcome it, two years ago one of them told me that abstaining from jerking off could boost their self confidence...
So I was very interested by this and decided to try it.

I began by looking at websites such yourbrainonporn or yourbrainrebalanced regularly, and the next day, for some reason my emotional state changed completely, The sky never looked so beautiful, I hadn't been so optimistic in a long time, my voice had changed, it was stronger and I wanted to assert myself more, I also noticed noticed the way women looked at me was different.
That day I did some small talk with a student lady, and she was moving her body in a very feminine way, something I never noticed before...

The next days my voice was even stronger and, girls began smiling at me and so on......

And the day after it all crashed, difficulty concentrating, anger, voice cracking, digestive problems, feeling horrible and like a zombie...

This was two years ago, between those two years I have never succeeded to reach that state again, I had many streak of not faping and not looking at porn, 90 days, 120 days, and my best 180 days...

I tried to improve my life in many different ways, approaching girls, asking them out, going out more, learning to play guitar, concentrating on my career, get my driving license, working out, meditation, cold shower and many many other things...

In those times I was always feeling very tired, difficulty concentrating, anger, difficulty or almost impossible to socialize...
I was convinced that for the efforts I did to improve myself, at some point my life should have improved, and the dopamine should have restored itself or something like that...
I was thinking I was in a "flatline" state and at some point my mood would go back.
Reading all the science on yourbrainonporn and all the topics in yourbrainrebalanced led to me believe that dopamine was really the main thing that was causing me all those emotional problems.

but I was wrong.

2) Recover faster :

I am really convinced that dopamine doesn't even come close to play a role in your recovery.
It's all emotional.
When we stop an addictive behavior or an addiction, we just stop the high intensity activity that enabled us to run away from the emotions we didn't/don't want to feel.

So when you stop such an intense addiction such as pornography, all the emotions that you repressed start to come up in a daily basis.
And this is what a lot of people describe as emotional roallercoaster, it has nothing to do with dopamine.

For most people the recovery takes between one or two months, every time you sleep the brain treats information and recover from emotion or something like that, I am not a scientist but I believe it's something like that.
So for that category of people, abstaining from this leads to an emotional roallercoster, feeling highly sad and the next day highly angry and so on...
But after sometime of really feeling and integrating those emotions they start to feel more balanced, they feel joy and sometimes anger, sometimes sadness, some time love...

They start feeling the "superpower" of nofap (self-confidence) because they have experienced the emotion of feeling rejected without judging it. The people that fear the emotion of being rejected have social anxiety.
But there is no reason of being afraid of that felling, it's just a sensation in the body, in contrary to what many people think, it doesn't physically hurt. when you are in peace with the feeling of being rejected, social anxiety disappear...

So NoFap is a journey thought discovering that emotions are just sensations in the body, and that we should not run away from them but instead feel them deeply in our body

For the other category of people such as myself :
The people that take longer to "recover" are the people who have a lot of emotional issues, such as deep anger, deep sadness, trauma...

Those people take a long time to recover or simply never recover if they simply think that dopamine will restore itslef...
Those people think they are often numb to emotions, but we are never numb to emotions, it's just that there is an emotion that take so much place that we can no longer feel the other ones...

In my case it's really deep anger, everyday I experience anger toward everything and everyone, it is making me difficult to concentrate, to being joyfull, and almost impossible to love (it is not surprising that I have social anxiety).

3) Tools to overcome deep emotional issues :
Anger : anger push you to take action, if you feel angry you likely have thoughts of expressing this anger in lots of different ways, for me it's very often through arguing or communicating in a aggressive way, writing topics such as this one, but it can be hitting people or things...

To release anger you need to express it, if you do not express it you are suppressing it, so maybe go cut some woods with an axe, punch something as long as it is not a human, write a letter to the person that hurted you the most...

For sadness I don't know, but it is often close to anger, maybe just write in a topic how deeply you feel sad about your life and situation, just expressing it is the best way to release it I think. You don't have to actually post what you write, you can just decide to write and once you are finished just delete it and see how you feel.

Traumas : for traumas I used specific techniques that release tension in the body...
When you have trauma or suppressed emotions, they are just emotions stuck in the muscle, that's why you have tight and stiff muscle and perhaps even pain, the muscles are holding the suppressed emotions or trauma.

Techniques :

Trauma releasing exercises :
It consist in a serie of exercises that fatigue your leg muscles and particularly your psoas muscle, and then you lie on the ground, the tremors start to come up in the body searching for any tensions that needs to be released...
It's based on the fact that after facing a traumatic experiencing human and animals have an internal mechanism which release tension by trembling. What is many times confuse as trembling = fear is in fact trembling = release of the post traumatic experience or just release of stress.
video illustrating this :
And how to do it :

Rebirthing breath-work :
A lot of the suppressed emotions can be released through deep breathing, but this techniques is more intense.
You lie on the ground, and you breath in and out without pauses, often compared to a Psychedelic experience, it is really strong in releasing whatever emotions you are holding on...
Just do some research to learn more about it.

Simple technique but not as effective :
EMDR, running in the forest while taking deep breath...


Why I write this?
Because my anger lead mo to write it, my anger toward this website focusing way too much on dopamine...
My anger in seing people rebooting for more then one years, trying to change their lives and still waiting for dopamine to balance itself...
And maybe helping people improve their life.

Writing this is a kind of a theraphy for me... (expressing anger)
Anyway feel free to discuss this with me, if you think I am wrong or just want to debate this, or maybe just add additional information to help people...
And forgive my english as it is not my first language.