Fantasizing - Yes or No???

Hello, yes that's dangereous, especially when you see someone that attracts you, in the street, or bus for example...

But this is a good thing, because apparently, real porn addicts, who can't stop watching porn lost their ability to fantasize...

As for me, i can easily stay away from porn, masturbate on the other hand, that's another problem, but i'm still fighting...

 

If you fantasize, you'll have an hardon, then you're gonna want to touch yourself, then you'll do it, and then crap lol

So, the best thing to do is to not think about it, and chase it away when you have a thought...

Hope i'm understandable lol, then again, i'm french...

 

I am so glad that i chanced upon this thread!

Its day 13 for me and in a regular day at home (off the internet) i would have fantasized at least 10 times in the span of 1 hour. And thus have annoying regular er*ctions. Outside is much worse, up to 20 times per hour because the climate in my area is hot and people like to wear revealing clothes. :/
But the thing is i always try and do stop myself from wondering too much but it keeps coming back

I want to ask and i REALLY WANT TO KNOW
1) What is this phase called? low dopamine phase? flatlining? help me cos my mind is going crazy, getting stimulated by just glimpsing even a small clea*age or even a long skirt (omg i am brutally honest and hopelessly h*rny sometimes i admit)

2) Will you be able to stop your fantasies or at least control them better after 90 days? what exactly happens to your brain after this whole thing??

 

I think once you are rebooted, you can fantasize. But to let the healing take place you need to not allow it at all.

I especially avoid it during sex because I got into this because of PIED. Concentrate on the sensation and the moment. Don't use it as a crutch to keep you erect.

 

If you fantasise about anything, chances are it will have an effect on you. If you fantasise over and over about killing someone, and you don't do it, is it okay? Will it affect you psychologically? Is there a greater chance you'll commit a crime in the future? The same can be said about fantasising porn. It will just feed that urge over and over. You will just be torturing yourself. The whole point of taking a part of this challenge is to stay clean 100% .

Reminds me of this verse:

"For as he thinks in his heart, so is he". -Proverbs 23:7 .