Lately, I've reached 30 days of Nofap, but haven't watched any Porn in like 4 months. I have become social and gained a little confidence and social skills. I find many "real" women to be more attractive, physically and personality wise. Since I don't have a girlfriend yet, I've been fantasizing about my "friends": I'm getting mental images in my head like, holding her hand, kissing her, making out with her, laying in bed with her and having sex with her...but NOT in a porn way....I find porn sex is nothing compared to real sex. Real sex is like: loving a person and expressing my emotional and sexual feelings with that person. I don't fantasize on having her on a BDSM scene or blowjob scene. I fantasize on really "making love" with her. My question is: Is this supposed to be normal? What if I actually imagine making love with this person and masturbating to it? Is that negative to the rebooting process? Should I completely not even think about fantasizing for a full 90 days?Let me know... Thanks
Im really starting to feel like questions like this are getting a little silly. You are GOING to fantasize. Youre assumingly an average to young aged male. I think a big part of peoples problems, ironically, is their obsession with their problem, and their "reboot". Its simple....so many are overcomplicating it. Quit jerking it for a while. Do your best to go as long as you can and if you do it once randomly every thirty days it doesnt "start over". There ks huge progress there. Do your best to ease up on your masturbation habits, try to never watch porn again (i think this is really the only super iMportant part), and just relax with the obsession over whether or not youre doing it right. There is no doing it right. Only what you feel is right. Good lick.
Depends on your goals and your problem really. I think most of us on here are not addicted to porn alone but the dopamine that's released via masturbation. For that reason I would tell you no, you shouldn't masturbate to anything. All that's gonna do is get you back on your original cycle.
I guess if fantasizing leads to masturbation then you shouldn't fantasize. It's breaking the neural pathways like Lumberjack-off-Man says. Just don't let your imagination have you drop your pants. B49
congrats u made it to day 120 P-free. and 30 days M free. I'm sure you are already seeing the benifits of not watching porn already. and as proof you are fantasizing at girls "in a good way". But is it something good to do-fantasizing? My opinion is that event thou if it might seem inoffensive at first to fantasize, but it can become an obsession if you keep on doing it and this can bring you back to the cycle of Porn again. i dont think its healthy as well for your mind. What you need is a real girlfriend, but ironically this shouldn't be your focus. rather learn to live without sex. stop even thinking about sex and this gonna lead you a higher pathway in life. by doing so, this sexual energy will bring you success in other areas of your life.
