Failing Classes

Boy oh boy, There’s no putting energy into doing nofap, there’s only gaining energy. The fact that you think nofap is hard is making you exhausted and that’s why you’re lazy cuz you’re not moving on with your life. You need to decide now and forever are you going to fap or not, there is no streaks those are bullshit. This ain’t a race it’s a marathon, this ain’t a destination, its a journey.

 

You're asking about a mindset. Ownership for everything that's happened in your life. Sometimes things aren't your fault, but it's ALWAYS your responsability to make sure it never happens again. You are stronger than you think and you have things to get done. You don't want to study? You don't feel like it bc you'd rather play? Don't care, do it anyway, do it wholeheartadely, then and only then, when you know not only you did a good job but you did a GREAT job, you can relax.

Also, you said "probably" fail, how so? When are your exams?

 

It helps to have a goal to work towards, beyond just graduating. Do you need a certain grade level in order to take further schooling or anything? I’ve been in your shoes many times, on the verge of failing, but I pulled through and did what I had to do to pass last second. So if you can salvage those classes and pass, find a way.

 

I think this question depends on the answers to a few other questions. Such as...

Do you need this degree for the career you want?

Do you think if you put in more effort, you would be able to pass the class, or is it the subject matter that is just too hard? If you tried to take the class again with more discipline, would you be able to succeed?

What are you willing to do to make that happen? How much do you want this?

I've always been a straight A student, but physics absolutely kicked my butt in high school. I hated it, wanted to quit but I couldn't. I talked to my science teacher, who I was already really close with, and honestly told him that I feel like this subject is just too hard for me and I'm having an extremely hard time understanding it.

He encouraged me and said he would be willing to help me however much I needed to succeed, if I needed more one-on-one teaching. He also encouraged me that it is a tough class, but that I'm smart and he really didn't think it was a subject behind my ability to conquer if I put my mind to it.

I ended up getting an A in the class, and some of my fondest high school memories are from the projects we did in that class. But it was definitely hard.

You said you have generally been a good student, so that leads me to think you are capable of doing much better than you have been. It seems like your problem is discipline. Unfortunately that's one of those things you just have to make yourself do. Like making yourself drink more water or exercise or go grocery shopping, or any other number of tasks you don't necessarily want to do, but need to do.

I think if you work on your discipline, you will surely not regret it. It's a very important aspect of life, and I know from experience of being rather bad at it, that it is definitely something you want to work on sooner rather than later.

You can achieve this goal. You just have to be more disciplined to put your future ahead of your temporary pleasures, and manage your time wisely. It's simple, but not always easy. I think you can do it, though. I'd be happy to help if at all possible. I'm a huge nerd for organization and planning, so if you need someone to help with organizing your schedule or whatever things like that, let me know.

I hope all goes well in talking to your parents. If you decide you want to continue school, I would advise to make yourself clear that you don't tale this lightly and that you will do better next time. College is really expensive, so I doubt they are going to be willing to pay for the same classes a 3rd time unless you make it clear that you're taking their investment seriously.

 

I will also add that FORTUNATELY, lack of discipline is probably an easier problem to correct than lack of intelligence and understanding. If you are smart enough to understand what you are learning, but you are failing in discipline, that's totally possible to change. And it will benefit you in all aspects of life to work through that, even if you never ended up using your degree at all.

 

I think that's a necessary first step. Look at your grades, and if there is still time, go to your professors and explain your desire to do better and turn things around. See what they say. Maybe they will have mercy and give you an opportunity for extra credit or something to pass it now instead of having to take it again.

I think this is likely a common issue among us addicts. It makes sense, because addiction could be overcome with discipline.

That could be really tough :/ I think as a parent it would be difficult to know if giving you another chance at these classes is the wise choice, or if it would seem like rewarding bad behavior. I would definitely try your hardest to see what you can do to pass these classes now, if at all possible.

It's been a while since I've been in school, but I make a lot of to-do lists. I find it helpful to break things down into smaller pieces. List everything out that I need to do, then break those things into smaller tasks if possible, and plan them out ahead of time. Unfortunately this will be harder now that you've already procrastinated. But I would recommend listing out everything you need to do and deciding what days to do which things, so you don't get overwhelmed thinking you need to do them all right now.

I also find it helpful to rank my to-do list items in order of importance, so if I'm feeling overwhelmed I know I can maybe skip the ones that are less important or less urgent.

This is a pretty good method for deciding how to prioritize things:



It's called the Eisenhower Matrix.

We all get like that sometimes. No worries maybe giving yourself a reward system would be good?

When it comes to writing, I often procrastinate a lot. I find it helpful to make it a fun reward in some way, like going out to Starbucks to have a nice drink while I write, or make it a competition with my past stats, because I'm super competitive. Lol there are also some people on YouTube who do productivity livestreams, where they chat for a few minutes, then do a 20 minute writing/editing/whatever sprint, then break to chat, repeat. You could do sprints like that on your own as well. Maybe 20 minutes of studying, then a 5 minute break to watch a funny YouTube video or something, then another sprint, etc.

Of course! Like I said, I have no ill will toward you, man. I wish you well!

 

I also had this situation. But I was able to overcome myself morally and I got it.