I am currently traveling through Europe with no return date at all set. I am in Berlin at the moment, where the entire party scene revolves around German techno and house music. MDMA is super prevalent, and it's kind of needed for the atmosphere. I was doing great until I went on a three day party culminating in me breaking my oath to myself. I have since fallen back into old habits from the one incident. I need to figure out a way to continue this trip while still adhering to this.
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Sounds like a very productive and satisfying life. *sarcasm* I can't pretend to know your life or goals, but I don't see how going on three day benders will help. Anyway. What are your goals here? Why are you doing NoFap? I'm curious.
I am in my 20's. I saved up enough money to travel Europe indefinitely, so I am enjoying every second of it. In Berlin, this is what the locals do. If I want to experience it as the locals do, then this is what I do. From one of the clubs here: "Most of the parties are extremely long: Friday night events usually wrap up early Saturday afternoon, but Saturdays typically run well into Monday morning." I'm just enjoying my time here before I move on somewhere else. As for my goals with nofap, it's to quit finding refuge in porn and masturbation instead of meeting real women. To also workout more instead of wanking it and porn hunting. Also, who are you to judge anybody? This place is about support not judgement. Perhaps if you didn't live in sheltered Wisconsin and actually saw the rest of the world you'd realize different countries do different things.
Immersion in a foreign culture is admirable and good to do but sometimes it isn't worth it. Perhaps you should find yourself other ways to achieve that because it sounds like the party scene is harmful to your recovery.
I guess I just don't understand what you're asking. Taking MDMA or ANY drug is going to make this much more difficult. I guess you'll have to decide what is more important. The drugs or NoFap? Also, I highly doubt the majority of Berlin residents take drugs and party for days on end.
The people in my age bracket are. You go to the park and dealers approach you left and right. The same can be said about night clubs. Even the hostel I stayed in before moving to my AirBNB had signs about drugs. Hell, the guy who ran the hostel even told me where to get drugs near my AirBNB when I asked him where is a good place to eat around my new place. Anyways, you guys are right. Self-control. Period. That's the only way I will conquer this. I begin tomorrow anew. From here on out, the straight and narrow for me.
It's harder to do this if you are surrounding yourself with temptations ... and especially if you're altering your state of mind with drugs. Then you aren't in full control of yourself and it will be hard to take this journey as seriously as you would like. If this is a priority to you, then you might need to stop going to these parties, or at the very least, keep away from the drugs aspect of it. Ultimately it comes down to you and your priorities. What is most important to you? What are your goals? Why are you here and what will make you truly happy?
