Escort addiction

ive only visited one escort its usually AMP i go to They are on the same page as the escorts so i look at them all but have only been to the one escort up to now.
that one was enough,it was a thai ladyboy and the guilt and shame was immense afterwards.
i had to have a std check up and will need another soon because of it.
it became escalation that was getting out of hand.
im 50 days no pmo and the desire is strong still.
i feel better in myself in all asapects of life by not pmo and visiting these girls but i understand your desire.
for me its the physical touch that i dont get off my wife that pushes me towards them.
we just need as much distance from this behaviour as we can to necome the men we were meant to be.
im of the belief that we all like different things sexually but thats fine its the escalation of the problem thats the issue

 

I've been thinking since I posted yesterday and I think that I made a mistake in assuming that seeing escorts was not problematic for me (because for many men it is not). I didn't realize that having sex with an escort is not entirely different from masturbation. Neither you or the escort really care about each other to any deep extent. You're basically just using her body as a substitute for your hand. Seeing escorts is mostly a form of high end masturbation that I need to stop. Moving forward I'm going to try to quit cold turkey knowing this.

Only thing that makes it tough is that I do have at least a small bond with a couple girls who are nice people where our sessions felt more like friends hooking up than one stranger paying another to help them get off. I'll miss them, but I need to stop any rationalizations that could make me relapse. I'm very happy with the control I've developed over the urge to watch porn. Now it's time to finally get over that (hopefully) last hurdle.

 

Its great how you can go away and think about it and say to yourself, no what I am doing is not right and address the issue. Congrats on this and I wish you the best of luck.

 

I've had an issue with escorts for over 15 years. It's not a good place to be.

 

Yes, it escalates. It's happened to me recently, where I have lied to my partner, travelled miles to see an escort, stayed away at a hotel, spent lots of money.

I've realised the escalation has happened and hopefully it's given me the insight on how to finally beat this addiction.

 

I've visited countless sexworkers and did so for over 15 years. In the beginning it felt good to get a release, but as the years progressed I noticed I'm really only visiting them when I feel low. Loneliness, no GF, or generally down on your mood or outright bored with life, I took a lot of risk, and lost a LOT of money. I find it especially tough to choose between pron and sexworkers, the latter seems worse, but what's the alternative? It's tough to find excitement in life especially during these days, it's dark, cold and there's a pandemic. The next best thing would be to play games, but with all those hot female characters, well you know. I'm also picky when it comes to games so I can't find much to choose from. Aside that playing games makes me feel even lonelier and useless than before.

You can try talking to a sexuologist about this, but I it depends on if you can afford or if your insurance covers it. I've had a bunch of sessions with a sexuologist a few years ago, but we agreed to end it because I couldn't gather the motivation to change my ways. Looking back I believe there was some sort of addiction and depression blocking me, but it certainly does require a lot of effort on your side to put in to be able to change your ways. In other words; you've got to want to change your behavior. I don't think I wanted to, but it could also easily have been the addiction that caused that. Hard to say really. My depression still comes and goes though.

 

Wow do you still see escorts

 

Well just because gambling is legal don’t mean its not an addiction.
In the states I’ve seen lots of lives ruined by it.

 

I have an addiction to love and female gratification, it's like my whole identity has been forged to gain the approval of women since my mother left. Seeing her message today made me feel so angry, she hadn't contacted me in 7 months. But I knew I could find false love from Tinder and from PMO.

 

I think anything can be considered to be an addiction if it's done to the point where it's detrimental to other areas of your life. Though I agree that it's fine if used in moderation.

I'm sure there are men in Columbia who spend too much money on escorts or who use them instead of developing real relationships. Maybe this behaviour is more acceptable in Columbia, but I'm sure a lot of these men would have better lives if they focused their time and energy on other things.